(Closed) Is it rude to send a gift when I’m not invited to bridal shower?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1798 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I don’t think there’s anything awkward about an unexpected gift. One of my Facebook friends (who I’m not that close to) looked up my registry and sent me a wedding gift and she wasn’t invited to the wedding. I thought it was the sweetest thing ever!

So, I say, send her the gift along with a little note expressing your excitement about her marriage and wishing her a lot of happiness.

Post # 4
7609 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I don’t think it’s rude or passive aggressive at all!  I’m sure she will appreciate it.  I didn’t invite my Future Sister-In-Law to my shower (she lives across the country) and she sent me a few things in the mail this past week – I was delighted!

Post # 5
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Agree with the PPs…I have yet to meet a bride that didn’t enjoy a gift off her registry!! Regardless of shower attendance or not!

Post # 6
822 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I also think it is a lovely idea! You seem like a very nice person 🙂  I agree with sending it with a little note.

Post # 8
2697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t think it has to be explicitly “for” the shower. Just send it with a note about how excited you are!

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