Post # 1
. . to have just US at our own table during the reception? I’m stealing this from GREENCACTUS who was talking about being upset she was going to be seperated from her Fiance in a place thousands of miles away because she wasn’t apart of the wedding party.
I had never really thought about it this way, but over the past couple of days I’ve been thinking how we’re going to do seating arrangements (once the RSVP’s start coming in, well — have to send the invites out ASAP, we’re ordering cardstock and such today). For the most part, our families are very well acquainted, but almost everyone in our bridal party has a SO/child. Is it bad for it to just be an US table, and then have everyone else scattered wherever? Or should we have our HEAD TABLE and then have a BRIDESMAID + SO TABLE and then have a GROOMSMEN + SO TABLE? I think 2 of the Groomsmen will be w/o SO’s. What do I doooo?
We’ll be up mingling and dancing for the most part, but because of all of the hustle and bustle that day — when we’re sitting, I really want it just to be him and I, for a few moments of love during the hectic and wildly crazy day. Is that selfish? Am I losing my mind?
Post # 3
Isn’t that what a sweetheart table is? I don’t think it’s selfish at all…and not that unusual.
Post # 4
We had a sweetheart table with just the two of us and loved it! Nobody said anything about it to us. We were able to mingle with our guests throughout the reception but it also gave us time to spend just the two of us which was great.
Post # 5
Its called a sweetheart table and its becoming pretty popular.
You can do any combination you want
you and your parents
you and siblings and dates
you and Bridesmaid or Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor and dates
Post # 6
That’s a perfectly viable option. It’s called a sweetheart table.
Post # 7
Enjoy being married – have yourselves a sweetheart table and take in the moments! You’ll have the rest of the reception to mingle and dance and talk. Take a few to just be a newly married couple for a minute. That’s what we are doing. 🙂 Not selfish at all in my opinion, and tends to work out better for the wedding party. No awkward seperations of couples.
Post # 8
@Neva: SWEETHEART TABLE! That’s what I was looking for! lol.
So what about how I seat the bridal party and their SO’s? Any recommendations on that?
@mandb122: That’s what I want, our few moments of just enjoying each other through the evening:)
Post # 9
@lefeymw: Look at all of those options, wow.
Thank ya’ll so much. I definitely think that’s what we’ll do. I like that idea much better, PERSONALLY — just for us. I’m really excited now. But not so much about the rest of the seating. Haha.
Anyone have opinions on OPEN SEATING? I’ve only ever heard HORROR stories about it!
Post # 10
@Summy00: Open seating scares me. We’re doing semi-formal seating. We’re giving table assignments and then letting people choose who to sit next to and all that. As far as Wedding Party members and SO’s – we’re seating our wedding party all at the same tables with their SO’s. We’ll have two tables for our 7 party members and their SO’s with maybe another couple at the table as well.
Post # 11
@Summy00: I’m the kind of person who gets SUPER anxious about “who I’m going to sit next to,” due to junior-high left-over insecurities that I will discover I have no friends when there is no room left for me where I want to sit! I’ve only once been to a weddign with open seating, but they had HUGE long tables, and waaaayyy more seats than needed, so it was fine in terms of finding a seat.
I am starting to lean towards something like a sweetheart table also; more than half of our bridal party has SO’s, and I was thinking of just seating them at two round tables of 8, I think the numbers might work out perfectly. They would still be “up front” and have a prime, reserved, seating spot. (I was in a friends wedding, where she just scattered the Wedding Party at various tables around the room, so I was with my close friends, but I still would have enjoyed being at an obviously “special” table! hey, if you’re shelling out all this money to be in someone’s wedding, you might as well get extra benefits!)
Post # 12
When my boyfriend’s brother got married they did a sweetheart table. I was a bridesmaid and my SO was the bestman. We sat with his immediate family and the rest of the bridal party was seated throughout the venue with their SO. I think it worked out perfectly.
Post # 13
I just got married and we had a sweetheart table. It was wonderful because we were able to eat, talk, and chill together when we were not socializing.(I had a wedding dinner w/ background music only).
Having been to a # of weddings, I’ve noticed that the bridal party is very appreciative when they are able to sit w/ their SO instead of a head table.
Post # 14
We’re doing open seating because of the location and we could care less where and how people sit. Unless my Fiance decides otherwise, that is. We’re also gonna try to have it where certain groups can sit together and the number of those groups vary considerably. Then… there’s the kids.
It would just be easier to have tables large enough for certain families and groups and let them pick where they want to sit.
Of course, my Fiance also has hosted parties and stuff before, so it isn’t a big deal to me.
We’ll know more when we go back to our venue at the end of the month (TWO WEEKS!!!!) and I’m hoping some friends who are in the wedding can come and hang out with us, too!
Post # 15
Not at all! 🙂 Go for it! I totally think it’s a sweet idea. Up till my own wedding planning, I hadn’t been to enough weddings to realize how segregated I’d feel having a head table for only certain people.
I fully intend to have a table just to my future hubby and myself. 🙂 I think it’s a great idea!
Post # 16
My venue told me that the sweetheart table is the “trend” right now, and actually every venue I went to look at that was setting up for a wedding had a sweetheart table for the bride and groom.