(Closed) Is it shallow to want a quality ring for engagement?

posted 3 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

I don’t think it’s necessarily materialistic to want a quality ring, but your definition of quality may be up for debate. $1000 rings can certainly be quality, and if you’re unwilling to accept that then people MAY have an argument for you being materialistic. 

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

I think your price=quality equation is off. You can spend a lot of money on trash, or a little bit of money on something very nice. I would imagine that if you got a ring and absolutely adored it, you wouldn’t suddenly hate it if you found out it cost $800. The same way you wouldn’t get a ring you hated and then suddenly love it if you found out it cost $5000.

Aim for what you like within whatever the budget is.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

You’re not a gold digger for wanting a decent ring. I think most are over $1000, I wouldn’t have been happy with the 1000$ options. It’s an important ring that you will wear every day for the rest of your life. You are not anything negative someone might call you for being particular about something so important.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - A vineyard

I think asking for quality is perfectly fine. You just might have to make compromises depending on the amount of money your guy is willing to spend.

For example 14k gold instead of platinum and maybe a lower colour and clarity diamond. Not saying get a heavily included one. Just go for eye clean or something where the inclusions can be hidden by prongs and therefore looks eye clean. Or pick a pretty gemstone instead. Or go pre-loved  🙂 Even use family stones and reset the centre stone into a pretty new setting if that is an option. That’s what we did and even though it wasnt my dream ring it helped us get a ring I could like and feel attached to while I wait to get what I really want later on 🙂

There’s so many ways to get a lovely ring without breaking the bank!

 

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper

You are contradicting yourself – is it the thought or is it the money/“quality”?

 

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

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mindzoo :  I agree that the thought is super important to me. 

I have seen beautiful rings on here way under your initial number, though, and just the other day a bee posted a ring with no bling that was absolutely stunning. You made a good point about pre-owned rings as well! 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

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mindzoo :  you’re smart to invest in a good metal, as that’s what will likely hold value in your ring

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Having a quality metal is non negotiable. But you can get lovely gold rings that are relatively inexpensive.

I don’t think $2500 is excessive for an engagement ring at all, as long as it can be purchased outright, and is affordable for the both of you. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee

I don’t think it’s silly to want quality for your ring that you’ll wear forever, but it has to be in within a reasonable price point for your SO. I figured out what I wanted and what was important to me, clarity and cut. I also didn’t mind “sacrificing” color, because it wasn’t a real sacrifice, I wanted a warm color and a smaller carat because I have small hands. And we worked to find a ring I loved with what was important to me and his budget.

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