(Closed) Is it still possible to start over at 35?

posted 5 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 31
85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Girl, yes! I got married at 27 and divorced by 31 (left him at 30…divorce takes forever in MD and my ex made it even harder) after nearly 10 years with him. Sadly, it took me a really long time to recognize the emotional abuse and get tired of the physical outbursts.

Met my DH at 32 and we got married 9 months later, I was 33. DH is, undoubtedly, my soul mate. It is work, but from our first date it was…right. 

There are great guys out there! One of my good friends met her amazing husband when she was in her 40s. They are blissfully happy and perfect for eachother. 

Enjoy dating. I met plenty of frogs between my marriages, and way too many guys with Peter Pan Syndrome. But it was all worth it to connect with my DH. 

Post # 32
5890 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

Yes yes and yes!!! I met my wonderful SO in my 30s and wouldn’t change it for the world. He says the same. Things happen for a reason ☺ 


Post # 33
564 posts
Busy bee

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maxfluffy:  Of course you can!!! And congrats to you for having the courage to leave. My sister married when she was 32. My SO’s mother remarried when she was early 50s, 6 years ago, and they are very happy together! I also went to a wedding 4 years ago, the woman had 3 children I’d estimate she was in late 30s-early 40s. They are still happily married and she had a fourth baby with her new hubby. 

Post # 34
159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Oh absolutely! After a few broken hearts, I thought i would be “a spinster”. I got my head together, got a promotion at work, loved my girls nights, and joined match.com. I met the most amazing guy when I was 36. 2 years later we were engaged, and we got married last year.  I am 100% myself with him and couldn’t be happier. Even at  my PMS worst, he loves me like crazy. You deserve the same, girl! 

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Post # 35
1397 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017 - Ocean front

Indeed you can! 

I met my guy at 41 and he is the same age….we’ll be 47 when we marry next May :+)

Post # 36
80 posts
Worker bee

Yes, I got divorced at 37, started in the dating pool at 41 (waited way too long to start dating), met my fiancee at 42 (was in the dating pool for exactly 18 months). I’m 44 now and we’ll be getting married next year, when I’ll be 45. 

I”m not going to lie, I found dating to be gruesome. Ugh! But it was all so worth it!

Post # 37
2021 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Ruby Princess

Yep! Met my love at 37 and he was 41. We got married about a year and a half later. 

He is my person and the perfect one for me. I’m so glad I never settled. 

Have faith, it’s never too late.

Post # 38
2156 posts
Buzzing bee

Move to New York City. married women in their 20s here are practically considered child brides. It’s the land of the 30s+ relationships!

Post # 39
3855 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I met SO at 33, I’m 35 now and we’re shopping for rings, we’ll get married when I’m 36. I’m so thankful for the crazy path that has led me here and wouldn’t change it for the world! 

Post # 40
472 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

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jennhsr:  almost exactly the same! 

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maxfluffy: Never set an age limit when it comes to your happiness. Take it from me. 

i started dating my Fiance a few months after breaking up with my ex. Before him, I’d been in a long and emotionally draining relationship for just under 3 years – and by the time I got to the next guy, I thought maybe it would be a good idea to date a guy who checked all the right boxes – after all, I was 34 and had to date, been with people I had been crazy about, so why not be practical and do the opposite?

What followed was the most boring and frustrating 12 months of my life.

At 34 I was terrified I would be alone and maybe it would be best to settle with what I had on hand.

(After being bored stiff for a whole year…)

At 35 I was terrified I was going to be left on the shelf but the prospect of being with someone who was so wrong for me was more daunting. I don’t regret leaving my ex. Not one bit – and a few months later I met my Fiance again and we’re getting married two months from today.

Long story short, 35 is never too late to start over. Don’t sell yourself short. 🙂 XX

Post # 41
452 posts
Helper bee

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maxfluffy:  Life is just beginning for some people at 35, so YES . . . It most certainly is possible! My SO and I were both divorced, after raising separate families. He’s 62 and I’m 60 this year, and I still feel youthful. We’ve had a great life these past seven years together, remain very active, and I envision many more fulfilling years to come.

Post # 42
5360 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

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maxfluffy:  I met my awesome husband at 34. You can totally start over in your mid thirties. You can start over in your 60s! Take time to get yourself back to a happy secure place and eventually the actual right person will come into your life!

Post # 43
274 posts
Helper bee

Yes it is possible! 35 is still quite young! 

Post # 44
228 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Yes, are you kidding! Life’s to short to stay unhappy! 

Post # 45
424 posts
Helper bee

Of course it is! I met my Fiance when he was 36 and he’s told me that before we met he thought he’d left it too late to settle down, start a family etc. 


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