(Closed) Is it still possible to start over at 35?

posted 5 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 46
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Bumble bee

Yes! I found myself starting over at 37. I met my now DH at 38, engaged at 39 and married at 40.

Post # 47
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

ok Süße, jetzt reicht es. Du hast seit 3 Jahre hier über deine Beziehung geschreiben. Wenn du ihn damals verlassen hättest, wärest du schon 3 Jahre in deinem neuen Leben. Du verschwindest dein Leben- ich würde immer lieber allein als unglücklich sein. Hol dir ne Katze und ein bisschen Respekt für dich selbst und move on. Viel Glück Bee!

Post # 48
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I met my SO at 32 and will likely be 35 when we get married. I have no regrets being this age when settling down. In a perfect world I would have loved to have met him earlier as he has brought so much to my life, but for whatever reason we met at an older age. I think it makes us appreciate each other more.  😀 Besides, I was always a lare bloomer. 

Post # 49
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Bumble bee

Yup! Met my fiance at 39…getting married this summer at 42 🙂

Post # 50
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I met my DH when I was 34 and we started dating when I was 35. I was 37 when we got married. 

You can absolutely start over in your 30s. Don’t settle, you deserve more! 

Post # 51
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

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maxfluffy:  Please don’t feel hopeless! I believe that it’s never too late for just about most things, but especially love! I went on my first date with my husband when he was going on 42 years old. I know that sometimes age impacts men and women a little differently, but 35 is still so young! Don’t count yourself out. You’re making the right decision by moving on with your life now, and opening the door for the right man to come along 🙂 Best of luck!

Post # 52
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I know someone who didnt get married until he was 36, and his wife (who was roughly the same age) was in an unhappy marriage before he came along. Love isnt just for the young and its never too late to find it. I know for women heres this whole social pressure to be in a committed relationship before a certain age or we somehow fail at life if we don’t, but screw that noise. Focus on you, make sure youre happy, and the right person will come along when you least expect it.

Post # 53
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Bumble bee

I was widowed at 32 and am getting married again this summer at (almost) 38.  Yes, it’s possible, even under the worst of circusmtances, to start anew and find happiness again! 

Post # 55
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Sugar bee

I dont understand this question because I feel like 35 is so young to ‘start over’.  I mean, I am 38 and met my man a bit after 35.

Post # 56
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Newbee

Of course it is!  I know people who started over in their 40’s and are happy!!  They went on to meet fabulous people and most of all, found out what really makes them happy.  There are still plenty of good fish in the sea.  Even for myself, I was engaged in my 20’s for four years and it didn’t work out and I thought I’d never meet anyone again.  I met my husband when I was 32 and immediately, I knew why none of my other relationships had worked out…I was waiting for him to come along.  Don’t settle.  The right one is still out there!

Post # 57
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Blushing bee

I am not in this situation but just really enjoying reading all of these stories. 

I think society has conditioned us to feel 35 is “old” but in fact the best years are yet to come! 

Good luck OP. 

Post # 58
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Newbee

I think the issues I’m finding in my late 30’s is red flagged non-commital men. Men that have lots of unclaimed baggage (not working on themselves), have never had a LTR (never married/no children/man-child/peter pans), claim that they want X,Y,&Z, but never actually following through with actions. 

Post # 59
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Just wanted to say, I read your other threads and I’m SO glad you’re getting yourself out of there! You’re being so brave! Also, my FI’s grandfather died maybe 10 years ago, and now his grandmother has a new partner! It’s never too late!

Post # 60
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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maxfluffy :  I am that exact success story!  Last June  (2015) as I turned 35, I broke up with my SI of 6 years that was stringing me along in a terrible way (to make a long story very short).  It turns out I am now engaged to the most wonderful man ever!  We were aquaintances and nothing more when I realized that my then relationship was going nowhere and finally got up the courage to leave.  Shortly thereafter, I started a romantic relationship with my friend, and after a year of dating, we recently became engaged.  Since everything has just gone perfectly smooth like a fairy tale, we opted for a short engagement (3 mos) and will be married on Oct 22.  I cannot wait!!! I’ve said I would never have stayed with my ex this long if I knew men like my fiancee existed.  They are out there!  Don’t sell yourself short on love and happiness.  If he cannot give you what you want, then go and get it for yourself.  Alone or otherwise!  The good thing was that being with my ex made me have to find what makes me happy internally, as he was not able (and could never) do the things that fulfilled me.  Now I feel whole, and I found my best friend to share my wholeness with! 

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