(Closed) Is it strange to have my dad officiate/perform our ceremony?

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Although my situation isn’t exactly the same, I don’t think it’s strange at all. We’re having my grandpa do it. It’s more personal than having some outisder we don’t know come in. And if your dad’s okay with it, I say why not? 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

I like your friend’s idea! Sounds like it’s fine!

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

If you have both of your dads walk you down the aisle, and your stepdad is officianting, then your stepdad will be asking the question. Why don’t you have your bio dad answer with something like this ” She gives herself with her family’s blessing” or “She gives herself with her parents blessing”? That way each one has a part but it sounds more like it is a shared parenting answer. Smile

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

I think this is a beautiful involvement of both Dads!!! x

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

My cousin had her dad officiate her wedding,. I thought it was very sweet.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My dad will be performing our ceremony. The first thing out of EVERYONE’S mouth is, “But how will he walk you down the aisle?!” I don’t think it’s a big deal, since we won’t be asking “Who gives this bride away” or whatever. I think it should work out just fine for you! :]

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@jackchi:  awe! I don’t think its strange at all- its sweet!

I think the problem arises when you have both of them walk you down the aisle.

Can just your bio dad walk you down the aisle since your step dad will be such a big part of the ceremony already? I think it will flow a lot better that way.

I think its a great idea but you would do best to have your step dad at the alter already, have your bio dad walk you down the aisle, have step dad ask who gives, have bio dad answer and step dad could say something like “Me too!” and people would laugh and it wouldn’t be so much running around for step dad…

Does that make sense?

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My friends had both their moms officiate the ceremony. Rather untraditional but really sweet. I don’t see anything wrong with having your dad do it.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@MissRedneck:   “She gives herself with her family’s blessing” or “She gives herself with her parents blessing” I think that’s beautiful.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

@KimmySumShuga:  +1. This is the solution that makes the most sense to me.

I also like the suggestion PP made that you’ll be giving yourself to your husband with your family’s blessing.

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