(Closed) Is it strange to not do a first look?

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I am skipping the first look but we also have 4 hours between the ceremony and cocktail hour so hopefully we will not be rushed! We would be rushed if we did a first look as our ceremony is at noon.7

I’m with ya though with wanting to see his expression when he sees me for the first time but you also get that with a first look as you are usually walking towards him and his back is turned. 

To eaches own!

Post # 4
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Honey bee

I didn’t, but there are definately still people that do it the more traditional way.

Mostly people do it for logistic reasons, but also for sentimental reasons.

It gives you privacy and a chance to really absorb the moment. And I firmly believe it does not take away from the “walk down the aisle and see him standing there” emotions. Because he is standing there for you and only you. I could not have cried harder or been more happy. For me, it changed nothing, but added a lot!

There are tons of threads on why people did or didnt do a first look. It might be worth searching.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

We didn’t do a first look; we even avoided seeing each other at all on the day of, even before getting dressed and all. For us, seeing each other for the first time during the ceremony, and share that precious moment with our few guests was important.

Walking down the aisle was so special for us, I can’t ever imagine doing a first look; it’s just not for us.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I didn’t do a first look because we really wanted that special moment of walking down the aisle. I really wanted to lock eyes with him as I came down the aisle, but for some reason the officiant told him to turn around while I walked down the aisle and turn around when I got there. So we kind of ended up with a first look at the end of the aisle haha. oops!

 

You shouldn’t feel bad about not wanting to do one. I think we all dream about coming down the aisle and seeing your future husband for the first time!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Generally I was told by my photographer that people choose to do the first look so that they can get more pictures of the couple. I’m not doing a first look. I know it’s a nice intimate moment where you can break from the tradition and show your true emotions without your family and friends looking for a reaction. But I like the idea that the first time he sees me is when I am marrying him. We also have a gap from our ceremony ending to our reception thats about 3 1/2 hours, so we have PLENTY of time for pictures. 

 

It’s not odd. I just like the idea of the groom not seeing me before the wedding. 

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I had never heard of first looks until I came to this site/forum!

I always just assumed the pinnacle of the wedding ceremony was when the bride is presented and she meets her groom.

It’s fine if you don’t and if you do 🙂

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t believe it’s strange.  I don’t plan to do one.  FI and I are keeping it pretty traditional.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

We will not be doing a first look. As non-traditional as I am, that’s one thing I want to do the traditional way. I just want that precious moment when he sees me for the first time as I walk down the aisle. I asked Fiance if he wanted a first look, and he said no it’ll ruin the surprise for him.A lot of people do it , a lot of people don’t. I just can’t imagine ever doing it.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We are NOT doing a first look.  I’m not a fan of them at all. Besides my personal feelings, in the beginning of wedding planning I asked Fiance what was the most important things to him, so that I didn’t bog him down with all the details.  His list:

Good food, good music, and you walking down the aisle.

How am I supposed to do a first look based on convinience when Fiance says something like that?  I have a feeling that when I walk down the aisle I’ll be completely bawling because of all the emotion of it…but its what I want, and its what HE wants.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

We’re not doing one… in fact, upon H2B’s request, we’re not even seeing each other after our rehearsal (on Thursday, with wedding on Saturday). It’s really important to him that we go traditional on this, so we are. I think it’s romantic, and I think we’ll do just fine having “our moment” at the “altar,”… even in front of my brother, our officiant. We’ll do our pictures during the cocktail hour, and we’re going another set with our dog when we get back home.

Do what works for you. Either way is special, and either way he’ll be your husband.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I have never heard of this until I came on here. Im sure most everybody DOESNT know about it either. You dont have to do it if u dont want to. I dont plan to.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

In fact, at of all my family and frineds, I have not seen anything of them do one. 

Post # 15
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Honey bee

@Earlybride: I think its a regional thing. I havent seen anyone not have it recently. (as in the last 5 years)

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We didn’t do a first look and I wouldn’t have had it any other way. I think the “first look” is actually a very new and not quite as common as the blogesphere likes to make it out to be!

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