Post # 1
Our registry has been mostly cookware and serveware and fine dining, and hasn’t had a ton of random stuff on it (though I have a variety of price points on it), and a few people by now (including family members I consider to be more well-mannered) have made comments about how I should add more to the registry. I resisted for awhile but then thought, you know, maybe there are a few more things I’d like for my home.
So last night I added a few Elizabeth Arden Turkish cotton bath towels and hand towels from BBB (about $17 for a bath towel if you’re wondering – the name makes them sound more expensive than they are, I think – I avoided the super primo towels that cost $30 a pop). But now I’m second-guessing myself – is it completely stupid for a couple who are aged 27 and 34 to have things like bath towels on their registry? Will a lot of people just think, “Um, you’re 30 and you bring in a paycheck – buy your own damn bath towels?” On the other hand, this is why I registered for nicer towels that I probably wouldn’t ever buy for myself – if I’m going to buy my own towels, I’m getting Walmart brand for $3 each or whatever.
I think I’m feeling insecure because, while some people have been nagging me about needing to have more on my registry, including more common household items, on the other end of the spectrum I’ve heard people comment negatively on those who register for more trivial items. For example, my sister was talking about how she hates it when people register for stupid, inexpensive things they should just buy themselves. And this weekend, my Maid/Matron of Honor was talking about how lame she thought it was that another friend of hers had registered for measuring cups (“What, you can’t just go pay $5 yourself?”) – so of course I got all embarrassed and meekly defended my choice to include measuring cups on my registry (they’re nice, heavy duty, stainless steel ones!)
What do you Bees think? I’m starting to feel like having a registry is like giving people a look into my soul or something…
Post # 3
I think it’s perfectly appropriate. I appreciate when people include a variety of items at different costs.
Post # 4
Towels and sheets and the like are totally normal registry items.
Post # 5
Not weird at all. I’ve actually never seen a registry without towels. 🙂
Post # 6
We totally registered for towels. They were some of the first things purchased, too! I’d say towels are a pretty “traditional” registry item.
Post # 7
I think that you can’t please anyone, so you should go ahead and put the towels on there. If people want to buy them they will, if they don’t, then you’ll have to buy them yourself. No biggie.
I don’t know why so many people get their knickers in a twist over registries. It’s like they don’t have bigger things to worry about (the people bitching about other ladies’ registries).
Personally I find it a bit lame that because of etiquette, people register for things they’ll never or rarely use but seems good in theory (juicer, ice cream maker, chocolate fountain, etc.). I find it smarter to register for practical things!
Post # 8
is it completely stupid for a couple who are aged 27 and 34 to have things like bath towels on their registry?
No I dont think this is stupid at all.
Who cares what they think, its YOUR registry not theirs and these are things YOU need not things they need. In addition to that if they don’t like whats on your registry they don’t have to buy it for you.
Post # 9
Towels and linens in general are completely standard registry items! Don’t worry at all.
Post # 10
towels and sheets are totally normal.. as are regular dinnerware plates, utensils, cups, wine glasses, fine china, fine china utensils, crystal, luggage, and all sorts of appliances..
hey – it’s YOUR registry.. just a list of things YOU want.. besides, most places offer 10% off if you buy off your own registry, so it actually makes sense to add EVERYTHING you want – if someone doesn’t like what you put on there, they won’t get that thing – they’ll get you something else they like or they’ll get you a gift card or money or something they feel is more appropriate.. don’t worry about it, registry for everything and anything your heart desires!
Post # 11
I agree with the other bees… totally a normal registry item. We included them and got most of them too.
ETA- We are 25 and 29 and have owned a home for 2 years… our towels were just bottom of the barrel crappy ones.
Post # 12
Thanks, Bees. 🙂
@canarydiamond: All of this is so true. I think I’ll print your post and frame it above my desk to remind me. 😛
Post # 13
Not at ALL stupid or inappropriate. Quite the opposite.
Towels are a great registry item because they will be frequently used and appreciated. Yes, you could buy your own, and probably already have plenty, but one of the points of wedding gifts is that people like to help you outfit your home. A nice set of matching towels is a great way to do this.
The only thing I find stupid and inappropriate about the situation you described is the fact that someone would feel the need to make critical remarks about what people put on registries – especially standard, normal, appropriate things like towels and measuring cups!
Post # 14
Haha, I had this same conversation wih myself! Indie it with a lot of items, like I feel like people are going to judge me for registering for bowls like I don’t already have any or something. At any rate, towels are totally expected and a standard wedding gift – a relative recently gifted my uncle (55yo, second marriage, deploying to Afghanistan) a set of luxury towels lol.
Post # 15
You can NEVER have too many towels! And yeah, we registered for nice towels – a couple different sets. Some were $20/bath towel and some were $12 or something….. they were also bought for us. If we were buying towels for ourselves, we’d probably go buy the cheaper ones that you need to replace more often. It’s like cokware – could I go out and buy myself pots & pans – SURE. Did I register for nicer pots & pans than we currently have? Of course. Most of the items we registed for were “upgrades” – as we’ve lived together for 4 years already and had most of our staples……. some stuff was just getting old and needed replacing.
Post # 16
I am 34 and had tons of towels and sheets on my registry. Those actually were the first things purchased off my registry!