Post # 1
we got engaged back in aug the wedding is this oct, my idea for a wedding simple small fun fun fun.
i have feuding bridesmaids, a diva co maid of honor, the other co maid of honor ready to rip her hair out cuz shes trying to do everything on her own so she doesnt bother the other one. we were going to get married in a church but hes jewish and his dad basically told us if we get married in a church he wont come. my parents feel his dad is being unreasonable and feel that we should have it in the church. i feel because neither of us are really religious that it shouldnt matter i just dont want to be married at the courthouse. idk im just so stressed out about it.
Post # 3
I think you should get rid of the bridal party and get married in a non religious location by a JOP. That way you don’t have to worry about female drama and neither parental unit can be upset you chose one religion over the other 😀
For our wedding, my in-laws really wanted us to be married by a man of the cloth (they are super religious). We ended up telling them a pastor would marry us. At the last minute he happened to “cancel” and we convinced the mayor of our city to marry us on short notice .
I know your situation is stressful, but sometimes you just have to rise above it and put your foot down. This is your marriage, you should enter it the way you want to.
Post # 4
@zombieprincess: Oh dear, I’m sorry you are under such duress….it does seem to me like weddings bring out competing opinions and everyone wants to exert some form of control over what you want to do. Family, friends, coworkers, even our neighbors say, “If I were getting married” and negate everything that Fiance and I are working for for OUR wedding. I hope you can hang in there, it sounds like you could use a wedding planning siesta to reclaim your sanity. *hugs*
Post # 5
If it’s very important to have his father there, then find a nice venue not in a religious setting at all.
A wedding is supposed to be happy, and you should have everyone’s support. Find out what the two of you really want first, set your hearts on it, then tell your family what you two together are truly excited about, Hopefully everyone will be on board because they know both of you will be happy.
Post # 6
@maureen9004: ive always wanted a real wedding getting married by the JOP and no bridal party will just not do it for me