Post # 1
I had a quick question for all the bee’s out there,
My fiancé and I are weighting our own vows… I’m really bad at memorizing but if I have to I will…
Would you say it is tacky to read your vows off a piece of paper during the ceremony? Or is it just not as a big of a deal as I’m making it?
All responses are greatly appreciated
Thank You All
Post # 3
I think it is alot better to read them off a peice of paper then it is forget them!
Post # 4
LoL.. I agree with MsPanda! I don’t think there’s anything wrong with reading from a paper. Maybe put it in a really nice folder, so it’s not just a folded scrap of paper.
Post # 5
I don’t think so at all… it’s such a busy day and so much planning, the last thing people expect you to do is have your vows memorized! I’ve seen people do this and they even make a joke about it, pulling out a really loooong piece of paper (even though the vows aren’t that long lol). I think it’s actually cute to show that you care enough to put your thoughts in order ahead of time so they sound perfect!
Post # 6
I agree! I would rather have them in front of me than to just be so nervous and excited that I forget them entirely!! Better safe than sorry!
Post # 7
I do not think it is tacky at all. My friend recently got married and her SO read his vows from a piece of paper and they were amazing! Everyone was crying lol, and I’m sure nobody was really thinking about the piece of paper in front of him but instead of his beautiful bride.
Post # 8
I read mine off of paper. I wanted to memorize them but I felt like I might forget something that I really wanted to say and then regret it. I changed it up a little that day and didn’t always need to read right from it, but it was great to have it there.
Post # 9
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Not only not tacky, but I love the idea of having them done on pretty paper and having them framed. 🙂
Post # 10
My friends read their own vows off a piece of paper.
We are writing our own cermony and vows. I had always planned to read mine off a piece of paper. I just asked my Fiance and he was never planning to memorize them either.
No way it’s tacky, I would guess it’s more common. Just put them on nice paper 🙂
Post # 11
Paper 🙂 Not tacky at all. They’ll be a lot of things running through your head that day, so it’s better to be prepared than to forget the words.
Post # 12
Definitely NOT tacky!! I agree with the other bees, I’d rather have them written down so I didn’t forget something important I had wanted to say but forgot in the moment. Maybe just have them written on nice paper? 🙂
Post # 13
I don’t think it’s tacky to read them. If you’re really worried about it you can write them and then give them to your officiant to do the “repeat after me” kind of thing.
Post # 14
I think it’s fine to read them. What will make an impact are the words and the emotion/meaning behind them.
Post # 15
Nope. I think reading them is perfectly fine, and NOT Tacky at all! A lot of people do it, because you don’t forget anything, and it helps with any nervousness.
Post # 16
I’m sure it would make me a lot more comfortable to know that they are there should I need them.
They will be perfect no matter what!