(Closed) Is It Tacky?

posted 9 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Would You Say It Is Tacky To Read Your Vows Off Paper During The Ceremony?

    Yes

    No

    Its Not That Big A Deal

  • Post # 17
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    Bumble bee

    I’ve known a lot of people who have read them! ๐Ÿ™‚ And I agree with the framing them. It can be nice that way you remember them forever ๐Ÿ™‚ 

    Post # 18
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Print them on some nice parchment and, after the ceremony, frame them or include them in your wedding album.

    Post # 19
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    ?  How are you suposed to say them without reading them unless you improv. like we did.  It was really hard! 

    Post # 20
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I bought three very small ivory colored scrapbooks with this beautiful embroidery and a bow on the front. We printed out the whole ceremony and vows, and inserted them into the plastic page holders so the officiant and we could follow along when we had to (it was scripted in several parts, not just the vows). Worked really well and doesn’t look tacky at all in the photos.

    Post # 21
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    My celebrant prints on pretty card and makes sure she has our copies on her which she will hand to us when we need them. It never even crossed my mind that it might be tacky! I certainly dont think it is (and dont really care if others do!) 

    Post # 22
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Nope, not tacky at all!  At least I don’t think so because that’s what we did :-).  I made put them in some pretty cardstock (in our wedding colors) and ribbon.  We wanted to save them anyway and eventually frame them in a shadowbox thing with other momentos from our wedding day!

     

    Post # 23
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2012

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    @shushu1208: Great advice!

    Post # 24
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    Worker bee

    better to have them on a piece of paper then forget them ๐Ÿ™‚ 

    Post # 25
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    It is such a BIG day that the chances of messing up or forgetting a few words is likely, so I would vote for having them on hand ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 27
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I think it could be better to ready it. Some people get nervouse or somthing and having something in your hand could help with that, also I think that Its better so you dont forget anything. In the moment you never know what could get your attention. Therefore having your vows or at least an outline could also be a good think in the long run, I dont think that would be tacky at all. 

    Post # 28
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    Helper bee

    My parents have their vows (which they wrote themselves) done in calligraphy and framed above their bed. I don’t know if they had them written out that nice before the ceremony, though.

    Post # 29
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    i’d prefer to memorize them just so i can look into FI’s eyes when i say them but i don’t think it’s tacky at all

    Post # 30
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I would do both. Learn them, but have them on paper in case you get stuck.

    We didn’t write our own vows but we had three readings at our wedding. We made pretty little scrolls for our readers so that they weren’t standing there with a scruffy little piece of white paper!

    Post # 31
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    We wrote our own and read them from pieces of paper. If I would had time, I would have printed them on prettier paper and put them on a heaver backboard to make them a little more appealing. I think the emotion of writing our own vows and sharing them infront of God and everyone outweighed the “tackiness” of it.

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