Post # 16
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Helper bee
This is really interesting, I was going to have His & Her meals because while we are getting filet for the guests I really enjoyed the short rib at our tasting. It’s less expensive than the filet but I didn’t even think that it may be considered rude if I got something different from the guests. Hopefully no one is upset that I opted for the less expensive meal for myself lol
I say go for your chicken fingers!!
Post # 17
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Blushing bee
curiouscat2017 : Great! I was going to say my wedding was a similar price point and they were super accomodating with the menu. My flower girl got chicken tenders and I think the bridesmaids ate most of her plate LOL
Post # 18
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Busy bee
No one will even notice what you’re eating 🙂 Your caterer should be pretty accomodating to you, since you’re paying!
My DH and I offered 3 entrees at our wedding and we had the caterer bring all three to the 2 of us so we could taste them all lol. Plus we knew we’d be starving by that point.
Post # 19
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Bee Keeper
curiouscat2017 : When there’s an allergy involved it’s not rude. I have food allergies and have gotten comments about special dishes and I say to the person without the allergy that they are lucky to not need it and on the rare occasion I get something I’m going to enjoy it. You deserve to eat safe goid on your wedding day. Enjoy!
Post # 20
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Worker bee
Lol, I don’t think it’s rude. You’re paying for the damn thing! If they want lobster, they can “shell out” the cash for it ;].
Post # 21
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Newbee
I’m not really sure how I feel about it being tacky or not. Your reasons seem perfectly reasonable. I’m just not sure I understand why you chose dishes for your Wedding meal that you are allergic to.
Post # 22
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Honey Beekeeper
Will you also make your guests aware that you will offer chicken fingers to any other adult guest who, like you, doesn’t happen to “like” salad? If not, then no, it’s not polite. By your own admission this is not strictly about allergies, but that you like the kids’ option better.
Post # 23
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Blushing bee
I guess I’m the odd one out. I think it’s rude for the host to eat something and not offer it to the guests.
Why not bring in chicken fingers and fries as a late night snack for everyone? Or order it to go at the end of the night?
Post # 24
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Bumble bee
beets157 : I think there’s a misunderstanding. I can eat one of the 2 options for the entree and will opt for that. I can’t eat the first course, but I don’t eat salad anyway, which is the alternative so I agreed to it. We just wanted some chicken fingers. Most of our crowd will probably leave by 9 (there’s a lot of elderly people and/or people who are driving 2.5 hours to go home) so late night snacks don’t make sense, plus the main meal is quite filling.
I didn’t originally think to pose the question because they’re being served pretty expensive food, so I’m not sure why they would begrudge us having a snack you could get at McDonald’s.
Post # 25
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Busy Beekeeper
This is fine. Bear in mind that your guests are presumably not Weddingbee regulars. They have not thought extensively about this shit and will not be judging your every move under a magnifying glass, or analyzing each morsel of food on your plate. They just wanna have a good time at your wedding, which I’m sure they will as you’re throwing a wonderful party by the sound of it.
Post # 26
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Worker bee
Nope not rude! We’ve seen weddings were the couple were vegan so they had their own food while their guests enjoyed more regular fare.
Post # 27
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Honey bee
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
Team chicken fingers. I’ve also never once noticed what the bride and groom were eating, ever.
Post # 28
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Bumble bee
curiouscat2017 : yeah, I just don’t think anyone is gonna see your chicken fingers and be like “damn, they stuck us with the lobster and made off with chicken fingers, how rude” 😂
I think you’re fine!
Post # 29
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Sugar bee
As a fellow shellfish allergy sufferer, I strongly recommend ensuring that the chicken tenders and french fries are not cooked in a fryer that also fries shrimp. It’s a pretty common source of cross contamination.
Post # 30
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Bumble bee
I think it’s rude. There will probably be other guests who don’t particularly like what you chose for them. If I were a guest who didn’t like what was offered to me and then I saw the bride and groom eating something else, I would assume they were bad hosts.
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