(Closed) Is it tacky for bride and groom to eat something different?our

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
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  • Post # 16
    367 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    This is really interesting, I was going to have His & Her meals because while we are getting filet for the guests I really enjoyed the short rib at our tasting. It’s less expensive than the filet but I didn’t even think that it may be considered rude if I got something different from the guests. Hopefully no one is upset that I opted for the less expensive meal for myself lol

    I say go for your chicken fingers!! 

    Post # 17
    195 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

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    curiouscat2017 :  Great! I was going to say my wedding was a similar price point and they were super accomodating with the menu. My flower girl got chicken tenders and I think the bridesmaids ate most of her plate LOL

    Post # 18
    987 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    No one will even notice what you’re eating 🙂 Your caterer should be pretty accomodating to you, since you’re paying!

    My DH and I offered 3 entrees at our wedding and we had the caterer bring all three to the 2 of us so we could taste them all lol. Plus we knew we’d be starving by that point.

    Post # 19
    5663 posts
    Bee Keeper

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    curiouscat2017 :  When there’s an allergy involved it’s not rude. I have food allergies and have gotten comments about special dishes and I say to the person without the allergy that they are lucky to not need it and on the rare occasion I get something I’m going to enjoy it. You deserve to eat safe goid on your wedding day. Enjoy! 

    Post # 20
    71 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    Lol, I don’t think it’s rude. You’re paying for the damn thing! If they want lobster, they can “shell out” the cash for it ;]. 

    Post # 21
    47 posts

    I’m not really sure how I feel about it being tacky or not. Your reasons seem perfectly reasonable. I’m just not sure I understand why you chose dishes for your Wedding meal that you are allergic to.

    Post # 22
    13722 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    Will you also make your guests aware that you will offer chicken fingers to any other adult guest who, like you, doesn’t happen to “like” salad? If not, then no, it’s not polite. By your own admission this is not strictly about allergies, but that you like the kids’ option better. 

    Post # 23
    141 posts
    Blushing bee

    I guess I’m the odd one out. I think it’s rude for the host to eat something and not offer it to the guests. 

    Why not bring in chicken fingers and fries as a late night snack for everyone? Or order it to go at the end of the night? 

    Post # 25
    7439 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    This is fine. Bear in mind that your guests are presumably not Weddingbee regulars. They have not thought extensively about this shit and will not be judging your every move under a magnifying glass, or analyzing each morsel of food on your plate. They just wanna have a good time at your wedding, which I’m sure they will as you’re throwing a wonderful party by the sound of it.

    Post # 26
    54 posts
    Worker bee

     Nope not rude! We’ve seen weddings were the couple were vegan so they had their own food while their guests enjoyed more regular fare.

    Post # 27
    3865 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

    Team chicken fingers. I’ve also never once noticed what the bride and groom were eating, ever.

    Post # 28
    1714 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

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    curiouscat2017 :  yeah, I just don’t think anyone is gonna see your chicken fingers and be like “damn, they stuck us with the lobster and made off with chicken fingers, how rude”  😂

    I think you’re fine!

    Post # 29
    3049 posts
    Sugar bee

    As a fellow shellfish allergy sufferer, I strongly recommend ensuring that the chicken tenders and french fries are not cooked in a fryer that also fries shrimp.  It’s a pretty common source of cross contamination.


    Post # 30
    1647 posts
    Bumble bee

    I think it’s rude. There will probably be other guests who don’t particularly like what you chose for them. If I were a guest who didn’t like what was offered to me and then I saw the bride and groom eating something else, I would assume they were bad hosts.

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