(Closed) Is it tacky for close friends to ask/tell the carat size on engagement ring?

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 46
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Bumble bee

Eh, I don’t think it’s tacky.  One of my coworkers, who I consider a friend but we’re not super close, asked the size of my center of my original ring because it’s a cushion and she had read that cushions face up smaller than other shapes.  She was considering a cushion for herself, and she prefaced her question with asking me if it was OK that she asked.  I also offered my ring size and since she had been looking, we got into a nice conversation about rings.  It wasn’t a competitive talk at all, just an exciting time in both of our lives and it made her feel better to have someone to talk to because she didn’t want to come across as materialistic in front of her other friends and family.  And she would up getting a cushion a bit smaller than mine.

I agree that bluntly asking how much your SO spent is tacky, but I’ve never had that happen.

Post # 47
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Honey Beekeeper

Online forums like this one may give the idea that it’s normal and fine to ask and be expected to share. But they exist in part so that people can get this kind of information without being rude in real life. In most situations asking is incredibly tacky. 

I’d answer vaguely, i.e. “just the right size for me.”  It gets the message across. 

Post # 48
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2019

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pdg44 :  I don’t think so, with close friends because at least for me tell each other almost everything anyway, but others yes I would think it was tacky. 

Post # 49
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - City, State

I don’t think it’s tacky at all. A little nosy but not tacky! I mean we voluntarily all fork up ring selfies and our ring specs on here albeit anonymously but still. Isn’t that more tacky? I don’t take myself seriously enough to respond with a bitchy comment if someone were to ask my carat size. 😂

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