(Closed) Is it tacky if….

posted 9 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: What would you think if you looked at this kind of registry?

    Its tacky to register for that much stuff!

    Its greedy to register for that much stuff!

    Its normal to register for a lot and to give people options!

  • Post # 17
    3373 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Yes you should wait. If your registry starts to fill up, you add more, but first start with things you really, really need. Otherwise you will get A LOT of incomplete sets.

    Post # 18
    3942 posts
    Honey bee

    I wouldn’t call it tacky, I think it’s just unnecessary.

    I think giving guests options is good. There is nothing worse than printing out someones registry only to find that there are like 5 items left, and all are $150+++. But 2000 items is just nuts. We have lived together for a while, and even if we replaced all our items, and got everything we dream of having…it still woudln’t be close to 2000 pieces!!

    Post # 19
    5667 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I think the general rule is 2 items per every 1 guest so that there are plenty of options. 4 registries with 2,000 items seems excessive to me.

    Post # 20
    11266 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    it’s not tacky but i would agree with PP that it is unwise.  you will end up with a lot of incomplete sets.  you may regret it.  even if you did complete them over the years, where would you store or display everything?

    as for the typical good china, everyday dishes and things like that, i would seriously narrow it down to which one set of ‘good’ china you want.  one set of everyday, one set of outdoor, etc, etc.  same goes for linens.  3-4 sets/styles depending on how many bathrooms you have.


    Post # 21
    3081 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I agree with the PP. Unless most of your items are being counted individually (16 forks, 8 hand towels, 18 drinking glasses), I think you probably have too much and think about what the heck you would do with it all. I say you’re in a better position to go through your registries online now and pare it down to what you really would be excited to get. 

    Maybe keep a list of your second tier items in the even that the options start to get few. 

    I don’t really see a problem with having four registries, as all of them are pretty different and people have diverse shopping preferences. 

    Post # 22
    13094 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    You have registered for ~2400 items?!?!  I’ll be honest, that feels a bit greedy to me. I’m done with my wedding (and got gifts from most of our 135 guests) and I don’t think DH and I even OWN 2400 items.

    I think you definitely ought to par the registries down to the items that you most want.  Otherwise, I agree with the PPs, you are going to end up with all partially complete sets.

    Post # 23
    77 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I got chided for not registering for enough stuff! It’s good to register for enough stuff to give people options, but you might be overshooting it a little bit. Do you reeeeaaally want every thing on the list or is a lot of it filler to give more options? I feel like you might end up with a lot of stuff that you don’t want as much while the things you do need or want will get looked over because of the size of the list. I had a relatively small wedding so maybe I’m off the mark of what to do for a large wedding lol.

    Post # 24
    11163 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

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    @MrsPinkPeony:  Agreed. Can you imagine looking over a registry of 600+ items? I would opt out and just get a gift card.

    Post # 25
    1495 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I think this is a little much. Other than the place settings…how on earth did you come up with that much stuff that you need?

    Honestly, and I mean this respectfully, some people who look at a registry list that long won’t think “greedy” or “tacky,” they’ll think “immature” and “they don’t even know what they really need/want.”

    Truthfully, when I am buying a gift, I consider whether the couple already lives together, where they are in their life, etc and try to base my gift choice on what seems like the best gift to fit those things. If I had to go through 2,400 things to try to figure that out, I’d just write a check. You also have to remember that not many people will want to scroll through that entire list so you’ll most likely end up with the stuff closer to the top of each section.

    I’d definitely pare down a bit. It just seems a bit excessive.

    Post # 27
    5669 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I don’t think it’s tacky but I had a friend who basically wanted to include a lot of stuff on three different registries and ended up getting three of everything and spending months making/return exchanges. I would just try to ensure that none of your gifts are identical or overlap.

    Post # 28
    606 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    If I were a guest, I would have a hard time understanding how anyone needs over 2,000 items.  I would pare back.  You can always add more if your registry gets full, and you can add things to your registry after the wedding and still get the 10% off.

    Post # 30
    1795 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I haven’t read all of the replies. But, I wanted 10% for my Macy’s registry, so I added a bunch of stuff after the wedding and bought it. You could also create an additional private registry with just the stuff you are planning to buy yourself after the wedding. I know some people do this for things like furniture at Crate and Barrel. They don’t expect guests to give them the furniture, but they want the discount. So they make the registry and keep it private.

    Also, if you remove items from your registry, you can always add more if it starts looking picked over

    Post # 31
    336 posts
    Helper bee

    I think it’s fine. You won’t get if you don’t ask. 

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