(Closed) Is it tacky if….

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: What would you think if you looked at this kind of registry?
    Its tacky to register for that much stuff! : (35 votes)
    27 %
    Its greedy to register for that much stuff! : (66 votes)
    50 %
    Its normal to register for a lot and to give people options! : (31 votes)
    23 %
  • Post # 32
    Member
    54 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Not tacky at all. As long as you have gifts in a large price range, you are fine. However, wouldnt you rather wittle it down a little in order to get the stuff you really want?

    Post # 33
    Member
    1692 posts
    Bumble bee

    If you are registering for open stock china, silver and crystal, and plan on twelve place settings (which I personally would not do, by the way: if you do plan on entertaining formally then ten, fourteen or eighteen are more gracious numbers to seat at the table) it is easy to come up with a couple of thousand items. A formal five-course meal requires ten dishes per place, nine cutlery pieces, four goblets, and a napkin — that’s 388 separate pieces before you even start adding in the serving pieces! And if you then consider that you could be contemplating an additional couple of courses occasionally, and probably want everyday dishes, and bed and bath linens, I can see how you would get to a couple of thousand items. That’s nobody’s business but yours.

    You are going about registering the right way: look at the things that you need to acquire over the next twenty years to achieve the style of household you want to run; choose heirloom-quality goods so that you can collect them and cherish them over the years rather than dispose of them and start over every time fads and fashions change; and assume that they are your responsibility to acquire (thriftily planning to use that ten percent discount!) When I was a girl, good department stores maintained one’s registry permanently and sent you a note if one of your patterns was having a sale or (dreadfully!) about to be discontinued; and they helped you replace the lost and broken things by looking up the details on their records. Wedding guests had to find the registry by snooping, because it was never advertised, and to make up for the prurient pleasure of snooping they were forced to hold their tongues and avoid passing judgement on other people’s household planning.

    Carry on: you are doing just fine.

    Post # 34
    Member
    7 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    register for whatever you want and as much as you want.. NO ONE is forced to buy it….

     

    besides… i think that if you want something off your registry that isnt bought and you end up buying it, you get a discount.

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