(Closed) Is it tacky to ask an acquaintence who isn’t invited to the wedding to babysit?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Tacky to ask an acquaintence to babysit my nephew during the wedding?
    Yes : (11 votes)
    21 %
    No : (40 votes)
    75 %
    Other, please explain below. : (2 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    3521 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I don’t think so, provided you make it a request and not a demand. If you two aren’t close, I can’t see any reason why she’d expect to be invited, and she’d probably be happy for the business.

    Post # 4
    Member
    2701 posts
    Sugar bee

    As long as the babysitter will be payed for their services, I think it is perfectly okay to ask.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2854 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Definitely not. I know if I was in your sister’s shoes, I’d much rather have someone you know than someone you didn’t.

    Post # 6
    Member
    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Is she the kind of acquaintance who thinks she’s going to be invited? If so, don’t ask her to babysit. If not, I see no reason not to ask (provided you pay her appropriately).

    Heck, if she’s a preschool teacher, you could even ask her for referrals in case you’ve got more Out of Town kids to worry about.

    Post # 7
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    1036 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    How close of an aquaintance is she?  If you are sure she isn’t expecting an invite, then I don’t see a problem asking her on those grounds.  But I would want to make sure you know her very well before suggesting her to your sister to watch her baby.

    Post # 8
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    3367 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    Who else would you ask?  It has to be someone you at least know something about, and she seems perfect from what you said. 

    Post # 9
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    606 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @sonj818: hey there!  you probably already figured this out, but PM if not.  Most of FI’s friends have kids, so i know a lot of people in the city that babysit and can refer you 🙂

    Post # 10
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    3798 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    If she thinks she is going to be invited and then you ask her to babysit, that could cause a problem. If she never thought she was going to be asked, then she might not mind doing it if you pay her. Just test the waters and see how she feels.

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