Post # 1
I need some quick advice: My sister is traveling to my wedding from the midwest with her seven month old son. While he’d TOTALLY be welcome at my reception, she’d rather leave him with a sitter since it will be his bed time.
The problem? I don’t know any babysitters in my city! I have an acquaintence who would by NO MEANS expect to be invited to the wedding that is a preschool teacher and who is GREAT with kids. Would it be tacky of me to ask her to babysit or for referrals?
EDIT: Of COURSE I would be paying her whatever the going rate is for her services. (Which I think is around $20/hr here! Ah!)
Post # 3
I don’t think so, provided you make it a request and not a demand. If you two aren’t close, I can’t see any reason why she’d expect to be invited, and she’d probably be happy for the business.
Post # 4
As long as the babysitter will be payed for their services, I think it is perfectly okay to ask.
Post # 5
Definitely not. I know if I was in your sister’s shoes, I’d much rather have someone you know than someone you didn’t.
Post # 6
Is she the kind of acquaintance who thinks she’s going to be invited? If so, don’t ask her to babysit. If not, I see no reason not to ask (provided you pay her appropriately).
Heck, if she’s a preschool teacher, you could even ask her for referrals in case you’ve got more Out of Town kids to worry about.
Post # 7
How close of an aquaintance is she? If you are sure she isn’t expecting an invite, then I don’t see a problem asking her on those grounds. But I would want to make sure you know her very well before suggesting her to your sister to watch her baby.
Post # 8
Who else would you ask? It has to be someone you at least know something about, and she seems perfect from what you said.
Post # 9
@sonj818: hey there! you probably already figured this out, but PM if not. Most of FI’s friends have kids, so i know a lot of people in the city that babysit and can refer you 🙂
Post # 10
If she thinks she is going to be invited and then you ask her to babysit, that could cause a problem. If she never thought she was going to be asked, then she might not mind doing it if you pay her. Just test the waters and see how she feels.