Post # 1
I’m always paranoid that my gift won’t be delivered. It’s happened before and the couple just assumed I didn’t get them anything so ever since then I’ve been kind of paranoid.
Then one time I sent a very nice gift and through some tracking issue was never able to see if it made it to them or not (I found out later, it did) but I never heard anything back from them. 6 Months later I asked and I found out they were upset when I asked because they assumed I was just trying to guilt them for never saying thank you. It was really rude of them and I think they were embarassed they hadn’t sent out thank yous or acknowledged gifts and assumed I was calling them out on it. Needless to say – they made a big deal out of it and I don’t want to repeat that. Even though I was sincere and asked nicely.
I sent something off to my cousin last week. She got married 8 months ago. A gift card that I thought was being sent via email but the order confirmation says it’s to be “delivered” and it makes it sound like it will go to her home address. I just don’t want it going in her spam or something.
How can I ask if she got it without sounding like I’m grabbing for praise for my gift? Just ask? We aren’t that close of cousins.
Post # 3
I don’t think it’t tacky at all. If I were the bride this happened to I would be very embarrassed, however, it would be due to my lack of manners! I certainly wouldn’t be upset with you at all! We are writing thank yous for all of our presents as we get them but we also take a minute to call/text/e-mail and just say “hey thanks! we got it!” just so they know it arrived safely since the thank you might not get to them for a couple of weeks.
I think for your cousin you could just ask “Hey, just wanted to make sure you got this. I know if I got something packaged like this I might think it’s just spam!” Honestly, if she reacts badly that is on her and you should not feel bad at all.
ETA: If I were worried that she would throw it away I would ask sooner rather than later. Than she might be able to retrieve it if she did think it was spam.
Post # 4
as long as you’re not like ‘since i didn’t recieve a thank you…’ it’s not rude at all.
it’s perfectly reasonable to check on a sizeable gift that’s being shipped – what if it arrived broken/not at all/was the wrong colour etc.?
the reason the last woman was such a cow about it is because she got caught out, and instead of profusely thanking you and popping a thank you card in the mail right.that.minute like a grateful person would have, she chose to continue being an ungrateful cow 🙂
so no, you didn’t do anything wrong by politely ensuring that your generous gift simply made it to it’s intended destination.
i’d just be frank with her
‘hi cousin x, i just wanted to let you know that a gift is meant to be delivered between x and x days, please let me know if there is any issue with the delivery, i’d be happy to sort it out. had a great time at the wedding, blah blah blah,