(Closed) Is it tacky to ask bride and groom if they got your gift?

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: Is it tacky?
    Yes - let them acknowledge your gift on their time : (2 votes)
    13 %
    No - You can ask. : (11 votes)
    73 %
    Give them some more time to mention it to you. : (2 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
    7276 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I don’t think it’t tacky at all. If I were the bride this happened to I would be very embarrassed, however, it would be due to my lack of manners! I certainly wouldn’t be upset with you at all! We are writing thank yous for all of our presents as we get them but we also take a minute to call/text/e-mail and just say “hey thanks! we got it!” just so they know it arrived safely since the thank you might not get to them for a couple of weeks. 

    I think for your cousin you could just ask “Hey, just wanted to make sure you got this. I know if I got something packaged like this I might think it’s just spam!” Honestly, if she reacts badly that is on her and you should not feel bad at all.

    ETA: If I were worried that she would throw it away I would ask sooner rather than later. Than she might be able to retrieve it if she did think it was spam.


    Post # 4
    2297 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    as long as you’re not like ‘since i didn’t recieve a thank you…’ it’s not rude at all. 

    it’s perfectly reasonable to check on a sizeable gift that’s being shipped – what if it arrived broken/not at all/was the wrong colour etc.?

    the reason the last woman was such a cow about it is because she got caught out, and instead of profusely thanking you and popping a thank you card in the mail right.that.minute like a grateful person would have, she chose to continue being an ungrateful cow 🙂 

    so no, you didn’t do anything wrong by politely ensuring that your generous gift simply made it to it’s intended destination. 

    i’d just be frank with her

    ‘hi cousin x, i just wanted to let you know that a gift is meant to be delivered between x and x days, please let me know if there is any issue with the delivery, i’d be happy to sort it out. had a great time at the wedding, blah blah blah,

    love, mousepeach’

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