(Closed) Is it tacky to hand deliver invitations to people at work vs. mailing them?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is it tacky to hand deliver invites at the office?
    Tacky - mail them to avoid offending those who aren't invited : (23 votes)
    39 %
    Totally fine - save yourself a couple bucks! : (36 votes)
    61 %
  • Post # 3
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    7174 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    You’ll need their address for thank you’s – so you might as well just ask them for their address and mail them, like all the others.  It’s not work the $ you are saving in postage, IMO.

    Some people don’t mind to be handed an invite while others prefer them in the mail.  You’ll never really know which of your co-workers falls into which category (unless you ask/they tell you) – which I wouldn’t recommend.

    Post # 4
    Member
    10367 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Hmmm I think you should mail them if only to avoid the invites getting talked about/gushed over at work in front of people who are not invited.

    Post # 5
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    1501 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I would leave them in the in-bin to save $$.

    Post # 6
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    9824 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    It kind of reminds me of elementary school when someone would hand out invites to a birthday party not everyone was invited to. I’d say better to mail them.

    Post # 7
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    201 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    Since you are not inviting everyone, I think it’ll be better to mail it.

    Post # 8
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    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    My old boss gave out invites in the office, I didn’t find it rude. Then again, I wasn’t one of those people not invited. I think as long as you do it when others can’t see, it’s fine and a good way to save a little money. It all adds up!

    Post # 10
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    1626 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I think the elementary school comment is accurate. You wouldn’t want people who really wanted to be invited who weren’t being all upset because they weren’t handed one with everyone else. Its not that its tacky or rude even just it could possibly make someone sad to know they weren’t invited.

    Post # 11
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    374 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Mail them. 

    Post # 12
    Member
    5993 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    ive been handed invites from co workers while at work and i didnt find it rude – we are all adults working in a professional environment, it doesnt take much to be respectful of others and do it quitely without drawing attention to those that didnt get an invite

     

    Post # 13
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    10569 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    If you hand them out at work, maybe mention you weren’t able to invite everyone so you’d appreciate if they didn’t talk about it to everyone.

    Post # 14
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    2154 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I think hand delivering is totally fine, EXCEPT in situations like this where other people could see. Hand deliver in private, or mail them.

    Post # 15
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    230 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I think its fine to hand them out. I’m might do that at the family gathering around Christmas. If not, I will be getting all of their addresses, lol.

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