(Closed) Is it Tacky to Provide the Stone For Your E-Ring?

posted 4 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Is it tacky to buy your own stone for your e-ring and give it to your SO to have made into a ring?
    Yes, that's weird. : (11 votes)
    11 %
    No, go for it! : (91 votes)
    89 %
  • Post # 2
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    I don’t think it’s tacky. I think discussing a potentially large purchase together would be smart, and you have a way to avoid a large purchase altogether! I know that sometimes men do want to do the choosing and whatnot, but I like your idea better.

    Post # 3
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I’d talk about it with your SO. I was planning on setting my mom’s diamond for my e-ring but my Fiance wanted to get me a new ring. It was just something he always imagined doing and it meant a great deal to him. But everyone’s different, so you’ll have to figure out how your SO feels about it. 

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

    Yes! It is absolutely OK because I was in the same situation and I did the same thing BUT I discussed it with my Fiance and he was ok with it. No bruised egos. My story is that my Fiance graduated college a few months back and landed his first “career job” a week before graduation.  He wanted to propose soon because he felt I had already waited 5 years too long for him to get situated in life. I’m already established so I offered to initially pay for the stone which is a moissanite to get the ring rolling and he ended up paying for and picking up the ring when it was finished.  He has also since paid for the stone. None of this process has made the ring or the proposal any less special.  You just have to do what works for you as a couple. 

    Post # 6
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2010

    rusty15:  “Man egos are weird” ๐Ÿ˜’๐Ÿ˜’๐Ÿ˜’๐Ÿ˜’

    That aside, many couples work together in choosing rings these days. So no, I don’t think it is weird. But the person that needs to be on board is not me, but your own partner. I would not just hand him the stone and say “set this” but rather talk to him about what he thinks of the idea of you providing a stone you would like to wear.

    Post # 8
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2017

    Yeah… nope. Call me old fashioned romantic but I think the man should pick and pay for the ring. And I think smaller size diamonds are perfectly fine as long as they are real. But that’s just me. No offence to anyone.

    Post # 9
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    4238 posts
    Honey bee

    rusty15:  

    Your romance, your ring. Talk with your groom and find your preference together.

    <3

    I can only think of one tacky idea for an e-ring (that I really love, actually, lol) and that’s for groom to buy his bride a wrap/enhancer with no solitaire. I told my hubs once that I wonder what it would’ve been like for him to buy me a white gold 1ctw wrap (four graduated side stones) and then a couple of sterling silver colored gemstone solitaires that I could switch out. He was like, really? Yeah. I think it could’ve been fun. I’ve no doubt some people would think it tacky. We buy other jewelry with interchangeable bands or accents; why not e-rings?

    Bling!

    Happy shopping, Bride to Bee!

    Post # 12
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2017

    Double post.

    Post # 13
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2017

    rusty15:  to each their own ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 14
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    3484 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

    I think as long as you’re both on board with the idea, go for it. There’s no wrong way to do a ring.

    Post # 15
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - Outdoor

    My rings came from my Grandma. Darling Husband was a little bit disappointed at first because we had started talking about rings when I found out she was planning to give them to me, and apparently he had a deposit down at the jewelry store already! On one hand I wanted to use them because they are so meaningful to me (I was very close to my Grandma and Grandpa, and they had their 50th wedding anniversary right before my Grandpa passed away) but also because I couldn’t see spending any kind of money on another ring. I think at the time Darling Husband was thinking that as a man he had to buy the ring, but now that we’re married I think he’s totally happy that his money went to something more useful (student loans) and we’re financially stable. And his wedding ring is from when his parents got married so we’re both keeping it meaningful and in the family.

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