Is it tacky to put registry and hotel information as an invitation insert?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Hotel information is fine, but registry is not.  You could kill two birds with one stone by including a link to your wedding website.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m not sure where it became “tacky” to include registry information on the invites – every wedding I’ve been to where the bride and groom had a registry it has been mentioned on the invitations and no one has ever been upset about it.

I think you should include it – obviously you word it politely so it doesn’t say “BUY US THIS STUFF” but just let people know that, should they want to get you a gift to celebrate/congratulate your marriage, there is information on your registry at XYZ

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

The most polite way to handle this is to include hotel, but not registry information.

It is not polite to mention gifts in any way.  Including where to purchase you gifts, can only be interpreted as a request for gifts.  A polite lady does not ever ask for gifts.

 The hotel information benefits the guest, the registry information benefits the couple.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

No registry information on or included with invitations! it is a huge etiquette faux pas. I included registry info on our wedding website 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I agree with most folks — putting the registry link on your actual invite is not proper etiquette In My Humble Opinion. It should be spread through your MOH/BMs and your website. People will want to give you gifts and they will ask someone near and dear to you or look on your website 🙂

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I agree with prior posters — include your hotel information and website URL on the accommodations card, and provide a link to your registry information on your website. You also may allow close family and close friends/bridal party members to pass along your registry information via word of mouth to any of your guests who proactively ask them for this information.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

Yes, it’s tacky to include where people can buy you gifts at. They can ask your parents and grandparents or his parents if they want to know. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Definitely put the hotel information. I know the popular opinion here is to not put the registry information, but I wish we had. We got mostly checks, which is definitely appreciated, but we only got three gifts off the registry for the bridal shower and wedding. Neither sets of parents could remember where we were registered and my dad just started telling people to send cash (it makes me cringe even now). We didn’t do a wedding website, but if you are, definitely put the information on the invite and put the registry info on the website. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

ok im a little confused, i thought your were supposed to put those registry cards they give you with your invites? i registred at the bay and thats what they told me to do…

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@4years3months7days:  It’s because they want the business, so they want as much “free” promotion as they can get which includes encouraging you to put those little tags into your invites. But as a general rule, I believe it’s not proper etiquette to include registry information in your invites. I’ve also overheard a few people say “ew, they put their registry info on here, TACKY!” LOL it was not me, I swear!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Never include registry information! What I put on my insert card was “For Additional Information, please visit our website” which MOST people are going to want to check our the site anyways and on the site I have all my registrys listed. My bridesmaids are listing my registry on my shower invites, but that is common since its sort of the whole point of the shower. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

oh good gosh, why does it have to be much more confusing then it is. i have received invites with and without. perosnally i found them helpful! i dont get why this is “tacky” you either say ” great this is where they have registred” or discard them. i would never think differently of someone who included them. seems so ridiculous! 

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