(Closed) Is it tacky to respectfully request accommodation payment with RSVP?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is RSVP wording- "Staying at the lodge ___Yes ___No (If yes, payment repectfully requested)" TACKY?
    YES : (39 votes)
    63 %
    NO : (11 votes)
    18 %
    POSSIBLY : (12 votes)
    19 %
  • Post # 3
    3219 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    When I read the title I was thinking you were asking people to pay for their meal! Glad to read its not!

    I wouldnt put it on the invite. I sent out a mass email/ FB message about the hotel block. Maybe you could do something like that and say payment is needed upfront.

    Post # 4
    2788 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I dont think your guests expect you to absorb their overnight accomadations. I don’t know if I would include the option on your invitation though.  Maybe you could set up a wedding website with the information, that way if people want to stay they can email you and you can provide the price?

    Post # 5
    83 posts
    Worker bee

    Could you somehow attach your website and say, for accomadation information, see our website http://www.hunybrownwedding.com and list the unusual circumstances there (and direct the payments)? You said you already called older relatives, so I most everyone else could figure out the site? That’s the only thing I can think of.

    I do think that the invite shouldn’t include any verbage of payment.

    Post # 6
    1980 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I wouldn’t “request it” so much as say

    A note to our guests: In order to reserve accomodations at the ____ Lodge, payment must be recieved by August 1, 2010.For more information regarding rates and pricing, please see our wedding website at http://www.hunnybrownwedding.com.


    Your guests don’t need to know that the lodge isn’t just like a regular hotel, who requires payment up front for a room. Just make it seem like it is out of your hands– and that in order to stay at the lodge, they must have paidin full by Aug 1st (or whatever deadline you feel is appropriate)



    Post # 7
    247 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2011 - The Viceroy

    I wouldn’t mention anything about money in the invitation suite.  You can however direct guests to your website and have the information there.  An e-mail sent to those you want/expect to stay at the lodge will also work.

    Post # 8
    10851 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I agree with what Texaslawgirl wrote, or you could have MOB & MOG call guests on each side respectively call each RSVP as they come in with the details. I think your best bet is directing them to the website with all the payment info, etc.

    Post # 9
    272 posts
    Helper bee

    I think there’s a polite way around this.  On the rsvp card, include a note that says, “to arrange lodging at the camp, please contact Mrs. MOB at 555-123-4567”.  Or if not your mom, then someone else who you trust to play that kind of coordinating/hosting role.  They’ll call, confirm whether or not they’re staying, and your designated coordinator can tell them where to send the checks.  I think you’ll have better luck this way than letting people kind of waffle on whether or not they’re staying, and it avoids the sticky issue of having them mail you a check directly.

    Post # 12
    1482 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I would definitely have the checks payable to your venue.  As a guest, I would just feel far more comfortable doing that. 

    Post # 13
    4765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

    I definitely agree with the PPs that you should put it on the website, not the invitation. And I think making checks payable to the venue is definitely the way to go!

    Post # 14
    136 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I agree with the others. I added a card in my invites that said “For more information regarding hotel block reservations, valet parking, and suggested dress code, please visit our website at http://www.sdjalksjdalksjd.com

    Post # 16
    516 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I think you should put it on a website- or send a completely separate email or note telling the deets of the accomodations.

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