(Closed) Is it Tacky to send out an Evite instead of invitation by mail for baby shower?

posted 5 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Is it Tacky to send out an Evite instead of invitation by mail for baby shower?
    Yes : (15 votes)
    35 %
    No : (28 votes)
    65 %
  • Post # 3
    1670 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @SamanthaLovesJames:  I have gotten shower invites via facebook and while I was suprised I wasn’t like “oh this girl is tacky”. Seems pretty efficient.

    Post # 4
    9954 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Etiquette Snob here…

    I don’t think it is “tacky” per se.  BUT it doesn’t have the same “cachet” as a printed Invitation (even a simple packaged Invite… with a fill in the form format… or a few details scribbled in)

    A printed invite is fun to receive in the mail (amongst all the mundane Bills & Flyers).  It is also personal… and conveys the idea that MY ATTENDANCE is being sought and appreciated (vs a mass delivered email).

    The printed invite, tells me that it is a “special occasion” and that perhaps the Host has truly put some effort into the event (and so should I)… and that there might be pretty napkins and décor… perhaps some nice eats & dessert.

    The problem with issuing non-printed invites to events that are truly “meaningful” in life, that covers a large span of multi-generational people is as you’ve noted yourself… they tend to be not all-inclusive (in that not everyone is on FaceBook etc).  Plain old snail male is something we all have.

    That isn’t to say that emails aren’t great, they certainly have their place in other ways… they make a great way to reply (or the phone) so that info can be included in the card. 

    And don’t forget to write the details regarding a theme for the shower if there is one (ie. We know she’s having a baby boy… OR We know she’s collecting ___, OR We know she’s registered at XYZ)

    Hope this helps,


    Post # 6
    664 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think it depends on the shower. If it’s a smaller, informal event with a few close friends and relatives I don’t think a FB invite is a problem. If it’s a bigger, more formal event and/or you’re inviting older people, I’d send a an invite card.

    Post # 7
    2902 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    No it’s not tacky. I don’t think a formal paper invitation is necessary in this day and age for something like a birthday party or baby shower. I mean, if it’s a really big birthday (21st, 50th etc) then a paper invite is nice but otherwise it’s a waster of money and paper. If there are lots of oldies then maybe you should send them a paper invite but the younger generation don’t need or want them.

    Post # 8
    4803 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I don’t like it. I’m going to a baby shower tomorrow where they did e-vites, and I mean, I’m still going, it’s one of my friends and I want to be there for her…but internally I was kind of like ‘Really?’ and side-eyed it a bit when I got a facebook invite.  Some will probably think that makes me snobby, but I think showers deserve actual paper invites. Birthday parties, not so much.

    Post # 9
    10589 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I don’t think there’s a problem with an evite, but if I got one I wouldn’t be expecting a traditional shower.

    Post # 10
    453 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Try paperless post- it’s an emailed invite a step up from evites. We use them for most showers/parties with my group of friends. I’ve had so many invites and rsvps lost in Chicago so it’s worth the cost of the nicer invites on the site

    Post # 11
    529 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012 - Hacienda los Agaves

    I’m no much for ettiquete but there’s always a limit. I think it’d be ok if it was you telling a close friend you weren’t able to send/give the invite, but telling everyone via FB feels a bit too impersonal.

    I know it can be handled gracefuly, specially for people who’s used to FB, but I had my fair share of “everyone’s tagged on the invite” kind of situations and it feels (as much as I hate the ford) SO tacky. However, my cousin wasn’t able to reach me and give me the physical invite for her shower last week, so she sent me the image via FB, didn’t think any of that, totally normal, it all depends on the context.

    Post # 12
    1497 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I never even thought about this. Every baby shower “invite” I’ve received has been through email.

    Post # 13
    621 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    no. I think it is efficient and people will be able to respond quickly. As long as its not a wedding invitation and youre not inviting your entire friends list, paperless is a-okay in my book.


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