(Closed) Is it tacky to throw your own birthday party?

posted 6 years ago in Holidays
  • poll: What do you do?
    I usually plan my own parties : (57 votes)
    84 %
    My friends plan for me : (5 votes)
    7 %
    other : (6 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I usually do the same thing. I say, “Ladies, my birthday is coming up. Wanna go out for apps and drinks?”

    I don’t really consider it a party though– just a get together. For some reason a birthday party has to have gifts in my mind πŸ™‚

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I alternate how I spend my bday between a crazy bar crawl and a classy party in. I create the Facebook event and invite list. When we go out for a birthday bar crawl, everyone buys my drinks and we usually have a cake dropped off at one of the bars n advance. With 20-30 people at the bars, less than half buy me 1 drink and I’m done. For house parties we’ve requested people bring 1 bottle per couple for a wine tasting party, but most of our friends bring a bottle or 6 pack to every party we throw, birthday or not. 

    I think the rule of thumb would be this: if a venue is rented for a party, the host should not also be the guest of honor. Unless you’re paying for your own wedding =]

    Post # 6
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    13077 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I usually plan my own, but it’s usually just dinner and drinks with my closest friends, so there isn’t much planning involved.

    Post # 7
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    2692 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Why would it be.  It’s your birthday and you want to celebrate with a few firends, why not host a party (even if its in your honor).  After age 16, parents usually don’t throw b-day parties for their kids anymore so who would host a b-day party for you but you!  I have done it so I say, no not tacky at all. πŸ˜‰

    Post # 8
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    342 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I just threw my own 30th bithday party/dinner – and I don’t feel bad nor did I think it was tacky. It’s your birthday – enjoy it!

    Post # 9
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Heck no, it’s not tacky! 

    Some of us are natural-born-planners.  The one year I let someone else plan my party, it was all screwed up and nothing went right.  LOL

    Post # 10
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    2564 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I threw my own 30th and 31st parties, usually get togethers at a restaurant.  No big deal, and I didn’t expect gifts, either.

    Post # 11
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    1571 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I usually host my own birthday party. I don’t expect gifts, I just like a reason to gather lots of people that I love!

    Post # 12
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    Wannabee

    I don’t think it’s tacky to throw your own party. I was going to throw my own bday party and I’m going to be 44.  However, it’s stressful.  That’s my problem.  Sister says she’ll see if she can get my 17 year old nephew up for it.  The party is at 1:00 pm.  Get so real.  Niece said she would make the cake.   Then she changed her mind (without telling me) and told her mom to do it because of her budget. Now I feel bad so she doesn’t buy me a gift.  I stress if my house is clean enough for my sister. I stress if they’ll like the pizza I’m getting from a place I like, but they’ve never been.  So I cancelled it.  It’s so not worth the stress. 

    But I never thought it was tacky to have one.  I figured, my sister has parties for them at their house each time.  The least I can do is have one at mine. But again, the stress level is not worth it.  It cost more money for me to throw a party then for them.  She only has 3 extra people to feed.  I have to pay for 6. 

    Post # 13
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I throw my own party every year with multiple events (usually a spa day, cocktails, meal and then either karaoke at a Japanese-style place in town or a burlesque club). It’s a big event, low on presents (I emphasise that I’d rather see them than get presents) but high on fun.

    Post # 14
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    Wannabee

    @SpecialSundae:  

    I wish for me it were that simple.  I really envy people that have parties all the time.  I’ve had 2 Halloween parties for kids in the past.  Those were “ok”, but I’ll never do it again since the last time something got stolen and a chair got broken.  I always get angry at my sister for being in a bad mood at Thanksgiving and Christmas.  Now I guess I know why.  She stresses out too.  I say why have it if you’re going to be that way. So I figured cancel it.  I feel bad, that’s why I can’t stop thinking about it.  But it’s better this then stressing the day of the party.  

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