Post # 1
So I know you aren’t supposed to wear white to someone else’s wedding but…. what do you think of this…
My Fiance and I are attending his best friends wedding. I got this beautiful black and white maxi dress and pretty red accessories to go with it. But today I found out that the brides colors are… you guessed it… black white and red.
Is it tacky to wear my ensemble now that I know I will match it? IT’S SUCH A CUTE OUTFIT!!! I HATE shopping for fancy dresses (I am a a big girl, apprently they don’t make pretty dress clothes for big girls. Someone should look into that.)… but I hate looking tasteless more. Whatcha think?
Post # 3
What about if you changed the accessories to another color? I doubt the bridesmaid will be wearing maxi dresses, so as long as it doesn’t LOOK like a bridesmaid dress, I think you’ll be ok if you change your accent color. I think…I know how bad it sucks to shop for clothes when you’re bigger than you want to be and I also know how few cute things there are out there for people above a size 14, so I hate to say you should buy something else. Anyway you could act surprised when you match? LOL If it were me, I would at least go look for something else and try to find a different dress, but if you can’t, you can’t. She doesn’t own black and white…she might own red though. 😉 Good Luck.
Post # 4
I think it’s fine. Or just get some green or blue accessories or something. As long as you’re not wearing a long white dress, I don’t see the problem.
Post # 5
I think it’s fine. Most guests don’t know the color scheme beforehand, so no one would think you dressed to match on purpose. The real test is how YOU will feel. If you’re going to be uncomfortable, then you should probably find something else to wear. If you’re fine with it, then I think it’s perfectly fine.
Post # 6
I generally would think it’s fine. Except, I was in a friend’s wedding, and the groom’s sister (who isn’t a bridesmaid) bought a gold dress that looked exactly like the bridesmaid dresses! It looked ridiculous because everyone knew she wasn’t part of the wedding party but dressed like she was. I think if your dress doesn’t resemble the wedding party dress, it should be fine.
Post # 7
It’s fine. I wore a brown dress to a wedding where – omg! – the bridesmaids were also wearing brown. There are only so many colors/color schemes to choose from, and I doubt anybody will confuse you as part of the wedding party. Go for it.
Post # 8
The great thing about black and white is that so many colors go so well with it. I completely understand your dilemna, I would feel awkwrd too! I think the important thing is that YOU feel pretty and confident. So I would buy new accessories. Lime green, royal purple, tiffany blue, lemon yellow – your possibilities are endless!
Post # 9
One of my favorite things about our wedding were the people that knew our color was orange, and they incorporated that into their outfit. Lots of orange ties, and pretty salmon to orange colored shawls and shirts and dresses. I thought it was adorable!
Post # 10
I think you’re fine. Most people don’t know the color scheme ahead of time.
I went to a formal wedding last fall and wore a brown dress–the bridesmaid dresses were also brown. For some reason, people thought to comment to me that I matched but no one took offense. 🙂 The worst you might get is comments but if someone is bothered by it, I feel that it’s kind of ridiculous.
Post # 11
its fine! our "theme" was polka dots. We had at least 12 women in different polka dot dresses. we loved it! 🙂
Post # 12
I think it shows a guest who’s paying attention when they show up in clothes that reflect the color scheme. Plus all the cool photos! Go for it.
Post # 13
I think there’s some kind of curse over my head because at every wedding I attended this year, I’ve worn clothes that match the theme.
I didn’t know what the colors for each wedding were before I got dressed to go! I found out AFTER I got to each wedding. I was embarrassed– my goal was NOT to match and take away from the bridal party thunder– but no one seemed to mind.
Post # 14
i like the others suggestion of wearing different colored accessories. That would definitely be cheaper to replace too!
i hear ya…..there aren’t that many affordable party clothes for the not skinny lady. sigh…..
unlike the trend on WB and other wedsites, i’m not even bothering putting myself thru the stress of finding a rehearsal dress. finding the wedding dress was hard enough!
Post # 15
I totally love the idea of the guests matching with the theme!! I guess I am just different! But what photos if no one clashes!
Post # 16
=) I think that it’s cool that you’ll match the colour scheme. I know that at some weddings, the guests are actually asked to wear the wedding colours, so I would think that this is a good thing!