Post # 1
Fiance and I can’t agree on how to address our invites. We both have average handwriting, so he is not a fan of doing it ourselves (we don’t have any close friends/family with great handwriting either). So I suggested printing labels, but he says that’s tacky as well. He would like a calligrapher to do the addresses.
I know calligraphy is the best way to address invites, but I always thought it was more of a luxury extra (like having a lighting designer or a custom made gown), and that people wouldn’t think it tacky if we just did labels or handwrote the addresses. Fiance says it’s more like serving alcohol or having centerpieces – you don’t HAVE to do it, but if you don’t, some guests will think it’s tacky.
I have no idea what the etiquette is here – any advice? Or is there some other way of addressing envelopes that I’m missing?
Post # 3
I’ve heard both ways. I’ve seen labels and it didn’t seem tacky at all really. I did my Save the Dates bravely in my own handwriting and I ended up hating it. I think hiring a calligrapher seems frivolous as well. $1 per envelope seems to be a going price and that’s almost more than the cost of my invitations themselves. I think I’ll end up trying some cute wraparound labels with the invitations and printing them in a fancy font. It seems reasonable to me and no one will keep the envelope.
Post # 4
I think I am going to print mine directly on the envelope! I don’t want to pay extra for a calligrapher and I know if I tried to address them by hand, I’d drive myself crazy!
I don’t think it’s tacky if you don’t have a calligrapher!
Post # 5
I don’t think it is in any way inappropriate to use printed labels for the invites. We used the “vellum” style address labels that you can get at any Office Depot or Staples. I just used the same font and color as the text in my invites and printed them on my parents’ color printer. Worked just fine! And if anyone thought they were “tacky” they kept that opinion to themselves. No harm, no foul. I just wasn’t prepared to hand address all those envelopes, and there was no way I was paying someone to do it for me!
Post # 6
I second printing on the envelope! It’s not too hard, you can just do it at home with your printer. Choose a great script font, there a many for free at dafont.com!!
I would not use labels.
Post # 7
I am not aware of any etiquette on this subject, but my personal feeling is that labels look a little bit cheap. Could be fine for Save-The-Date Cards but I wouldn’t do it for the invitations. Maybe you could get away with clear labels, as they might look a little bit better. I think the best solution if you can’t afford a calligrapher is to print in a fancy font, as fanatic888 said, but do it directly onto the envelope. I imagine that could be tricky to feed into the printer but probably once you’ve got the hang of it it’d work.
Having said that, our calligrapher for our Save-The-Date Cards only charged fifty cents per envelope, including return addresses! I thought they turned out well.
Post # 8
Handwritting is the proper way to do it, much more proper than paying a stranger to do it for you (that’s pretty much cheating) so no it can not be tacky no matter what kind of handwritting you have. 🙂 The reason you’re not supposed to print is for the personal touch, calligrapher = no personal touch, so if you aren’t going to handwrite you might as well print.
Post # 9
I printed directly onto the envelope. Seriously, even the most etiquette savvy of my guests just threw the envelope away as soon as they opened it.
Post # 10
we printed labels. my thoughts on it were- people are just going to throw them out, they probably won’t even notice them, so why am i going to spend all of that money or spend my time and make my hand cramp on the envelope being pretty? it just didn’t make sense.
and nobody said anything to me about it. they would too. i’m getting a lot of “you can’t have a wedding without wedding cake!”
Post # 11
I think you can faux-ligraphy it, just download a nice font at http://www.dafont.com that LOOKS like it could be hand written. This is what my Maid/Matron of Honor did and everyone called her to say what beautiful handwriting she had (score).
Post # 12
I hand addressed my STD’s and did not like the result. But we were in a rush to get them out and I didn’t want to spend a lot of money on it. Our wedding invitations will go to a calligrapher though, I think my parents would be mortified if they didn’t.
Post # 13
FI’s friend which will be a groomsmen as well showed us an wedding invitation from his cousin. It had a printed label that said, “The Marin Family” which I heard writing the family’s last name is an etiquette no no. I thought that it was fine that it was printed it didn’t look tacky.
My friend has a beautiful hand writing I’m going to buy her a calligraphy pen and she’s going to help me address the letters I only have like 85 invitations to address.
Post # 14
I’m doing wraparound labels with either handwritten addresses or maybe, MAYBE typed for our Save-The-Date Cards and I haven’t quite decided what I want to do for our invites yet! I don’t think either is “improper.”
Would it be a signficant portion of your budget to get a calligrapher? If so, you probably shouldn’t even worry about doing it!
Post # 15
Hand written addresses are really nice, but I don’t think they are necessary. But I would recommend printing directly on the evelopes, not labels. Using labels is pushing it.
Post # 16
I handwrote my addresses on my envelopes and I didn’t think it was tacky…I definitely don’t know calligraphy and just did my plain cursive. I just couldn’t bring myself to pay someone to write my addresses for me when the envelopes were going to be thrown away.