(Closed) Is it tacky to write in thank-you cards that gift$ are going toward honeymoon?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Hmm. Well, do you have to be that specific? Like perhaps you could say “We are so grateful for your lovely gift, and it will be going towards projects to improve our house, etc.” Are their any projects you’ll be doing to the house soon, any major bills paid off, etc that you’ll be doing in the near future using “your money”–so maybe you could “switch” funds and tell them they’re paying for that? Money is money once it’s in your account.

But if you think they’d appreciate knowing they gave you a great trip, perhaps thank them for the contribution towards lasting memories in starting your family.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Personally, if I were a guest who had given $, I would be happy to know that my gift went toward a wonderful honeymoon for the couple. A honeymoon is something that lasts in our memories forever (be it good or be it bad), and a good one is a perfect start to a wonderful marriage. I would say it’s perfectly acceptable to thank your guests for contributing to your honeymoon fund – I’d also mention WHERE you are planning to go. πŸ™‚ I would think that guests would rather honestly know that they contributed to your having a wonderful honeymoon with your husband than being fooled into thinking that they contributed to something that they didn’t. I guess I am just not one who likes even little white lies. The rare exception to this for me is if the ‘little white lie’ is told to save someone’s feelings about something you cannot change (i.e. your friend wants you to wear a horrid bridesmaid dress that she is in love with. Not only do you wear it and not say anything, but when she asks you what you think of it you grin and say you love it regardless of how you really feel). Just my 2 cents. πŸ™‚

I hope no matter what you do, you enjoy your honeymoon and your new life together!

-Bella 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

I let people know their gift was going toward our honeymoon if they gave us cash or check.  I just wrote “thank you so much for your generous gift, we plan to use to it to go toward our honeymoon in the Dominican Republic.”  That way they also got to know where we were going on our honeymoon and know that it went toward something πŸ™‚

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I would let them know if it went toward the honeymoon – for me personally, if I got a thank you note that said that, I would be happy about it. Everyone deserves a nice honeymoon! πŸ™‚

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

If you didn’t ask for money to go towards the honeymoon then yes, I’d say that. Having been on the receiving end of both money going to the honeymoon vs. money for the money pot I know I felt a lot happier knowing I gave my friends the chance to go scuba diving or have dinner at an amazing restaurant and have a great memory of it.

“Thanks so much for your gift. We’re planning on honeymooning in XYZ and you’ve helped get us that step further!” or something.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

You could always sut say thank you for generous gift. Most people don’t need to know what your using it towards. Either way I think your fine.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I would love to know that my gift went to your fabulous honeymoon!!

However, I think you need to consider who your guests are. If it was an older, more traditional guest they might be bothered by the fact that you put your money towards a “vacation” vs something for your home. I think by telling guests exactly what you’re spending money on opens it up for criticism.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We’ve kept careful track of the checks and payments we’ve gotten on our honeyfund and are going to be sure to take pictures of us enjoying or doing whatever it is that particular people gave us so we can include these pictures in thank you notes. But-we have a honeymoon registry, so that helps considerably. I’ve been a bit generic in thank you notes for unspecified monetary gifts “thank you so much for your generous gift-it will go a long way towards helping our family get off to a great start”, etc. I have two kids and Fiance has none, so this is the creation of a new family-we are planning on buying a king size bed, hopefully retiling our kitchen (tile is cracked and coming up in places), and working on my house-in addition to getting some things for our home like a coffee maker that makes more than 4 cups (we’ve both lived on our own and alone, so we both have small coffee pots!)

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We got mostly cash and checks.  I just wrote thank you for the wedding gift.  I didn’t tell them the plan for the money which was for the honeymoon or paying off wedding expenses.  Just my personal opinion.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

For cash gifts, we wrote, “Thank you so much for your generosity. Your gift has gone towards xxxxxx and we greatly appreciate blah blah blah”

I think it’s not tacky at all, and in fact, a very gracious thing to do. It’s not like you’re saying, “Thank you for the $500”, outright.

 

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We told people where their monetary gifts went to. I felt like I had to! Plus, i gave a friend a Lowe’s gc a few years ago, and she told me she bought fruit trees with it. I really liked knowing what she bought for her wedding gift with the gc! =]

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

I think it’s fine to say that it will be going to your honeymoon!  If I were a guest, it would make me happy to know I helped you go on your honeymoon!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

 I don’t really see a problem with telling people it will go towards the Honeymoon.  But I would suggest double checking with your mom or close aunt etc. to see if they think it’s improper.  They are the ones who know your family, (what the older ones might think.)  And it seems like some families have certain traditions, or customs that are considered proper etiquette, that others might not be aware of in giving you advice.

 

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