(Closed) Is it that awful to sleep separately?

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 77
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2449 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@nattiejeanne:  yes, sleep IS super important!!  But so is sleeping next to your SO, in terms on the relatioship– I understand once in a while having to sleep seperately, but I would definitely explore options before I jsut permanently resort to that!

Post # 78
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4835 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Aquaria:  I don’t think it’s bad per say…but I do think it’s bad if one partner is saying it’s bad.  It depends on the couple and it sounds liek you guys are not on the same page.

There has got to be a way for you guys to find a compromise.  For example, you could sleep together 50% of the time, or he could wear the nose thing since he’s the one who doesn’t want to sleep apart, or you could try a white noise machine or something.

My DH and I are LD and while I look forward to spending every night together when we are finally living in the same place, I do enjoy getting the whole bed to myself and being able to toss and turn to my heart’s content (I’m an “active sleeper”).

 

Post # 79
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429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Aquaria:  I’m going to chime in real quick. It’s understandable that his sleep habits disrupt you, therefore you want to sleep alone. Sleep’s important. However, i’m a Respiratory Therapist and severe snoring can often times be sleep apnea. You said you don’t want to “make him wear an uncomfortable device.” but do you know what kind of risks he is taking by not treating this if it is in fact sleep apnea? Stroke, heart disease and atrial fibrilation are all HUGE factors to consider. I really don’t mean to scare you, but as his wife I would expess your concerns with his sleeping habits and see a doctor. Almost every single patient I see say their apneas and other diagnosis (snoring, twitching, gasping for breath) disrupt their partner, yet after using CPAP therapy are able to go back to normalcy. It may be a solution for you guys to sleep together again! Good luck! 

 

Post # 81
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429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Aquaria:  I was worried I would offend you so i’m glad you understand! Most men are stubborn haha it’s just so important to address that stuff! I have had multiple patients tell me “this thing has saved my marriage!” just because they went so long with dealing with the sleep issues! 

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