(Closed) Is it to early to buy a dress…

posted 10 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Would you buy the dress (under these circumstances)?

    No, but I would be sad...

    No, knowing that I will Likely change my mind

    Yes, in a New York Minute...it is my DREAM dress!

    Yes, knowing that if I do change my mind I can get a second dress or sale it to a fellow BEE :)

  • Post # 3
    1221 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    That is one gorgeous dress!!

    However, please take a couple of things into consideration. A lot of brides just know they are going to want this one style dress. They are not willing to compromise or take anything else into consideration. But then they try it on…and they hate it. Have you tried the dress?? It may not be “The One” after all.

    Also, do not get your body to fit the dress; get the dress to fit your body. Again, a lot of brides will buy a dress 2 or 3 sizes down because they figure on losing weight. Sometimes that is not the case & they find they didn’t lose as much as anticipated. It’s much easier to take a dress in than it is to let it out.

    I don’t think you’re wrong, but shop smart. I don’t blame you for wanting this gown, it’s SO beautiful.

    Post # 4
    1726 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I… wouldn’t do it. There’s a good chance that you could find the dress on Once Wed (or similar sites) like you did before. I’d also like to know if you’ve actually tried it on. I totally get pre-planning though since you’re just waiting on a ring at this point! But I just think the dress is one of those things that really, really should not be rushed into. In the time that I’ve been browsing wedding stuff, dresses, etc., my tastes have changed significantly, and that’s only been over the course of the last 10 months or so. When you get closer to your actual wedding, you get a better idea of what you’re really looking for. Not that I’m all that close… lol. Anyway, good luck in whatever you decide, but just thought I’d throw in my two cents!

    Post # 5
    804 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I too would have to offer a word of caution. I’ve been engaged for nearly two years now and my ideas for my wedding dress have changed a lot over the last two years. Plus, if you haven’t tried it on it’s a big risk to take, especially if you’re ordering it in a different size – were you planning on having in altered?

    Post # 6
    3586 posts
    Sugar bee

    beautiful! I’d be tempted to buy, but along with the others, my tastes have changed. If you think yours won’t, get it.

    Post # 7
    2857 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

    I wouldn’t do it. I’ve been engaged for just nine months and I’ve already bought FOUR dresses – changed my mind on three of them.

    Post # 8
    711 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    This is the only suggestion I can give. If you really truly believe that is your dress – then get it! But if I were you I would not keep trying on dresses, because I found that even after purchasing my “the one” dress its hard not to second guess because there are so so many dresses out there. So if you do make the decision try not to keep looking – that is unless you truly see something that you are more inlove with. Good luck!!!

    Post # 9
    1 posts

    My advice is – buy the dress!  You won’t be disappointed.  I wil be married in this dress in two months.  It is absolutely gorgeous and breathtaking.  I am 4’10 so on someone of normal height i will look even more spectacular!

    Post # 10
    1600 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think the most important thing would be to remember that things could change. Anything could, actually.


    I have a cousin who bought her dress before she was engaged, and even though he was going to propose, she met someone else, and they broke up. Now she has a dress sitting in her closet. Also, you could start making plans, realize that the dress doesn’t fit with the location, formality, etc, and then you have a dress.

    Post # 11
    1641 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I can’t vote int he poll because the choices don’t work for me.

    I would NOT buy it. First of all, just because you love it on a hanger does not mean you will love it on. I can’t tell you how many bees have said that they had one thing in mind, and then when they tried it on, it was a completely different story. Also, you cannot tell by y our street size what size you will be in a gown (I’m a street 8/10, and my gown is a 14)! You def. don’t buy down in size, typically.

    There are also way to many “what ifs” in your situation. And, by the time yhou get marrie,d you could absolutely change your mind. I had a photo of a dress that I hung onto for over two years, and it is now not only out of style, but when I tried one on that was similar, I didn’t like it at all.

    There is no way you should buy a dress without trying it on to see if you like it ON.

    Post # 12
    759 posts
    Busy bee

    I change my mind ALL the time, so I wouldn’t do it.  I could see myself a few months down the road falling in lust with something else.  But if you really, really love it then you should buy it. 

    Post # 13
    2369 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

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    @ceamoste: I was thinking along the same lines. I think its pretty risky buying the dress before the engagement. I would be concern on having the dress fit in with the whole concept of the wedding. Location, time etc….

    Post # 14
    572 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    As great of a deal it might be, I would say wait on it.  Like others have said before tastes do change and trust me, once you get engaged you will not want to stop looking at dresses and anything else wedding related.  You also dont want to miss out on the opportunity to take your friends and family and GO dress shopping.  It’s so much fun.  I would insist on waiting.  As much as you love this dress, you may find it on a pre-owned site OR you could also find something else you love better down the line. 

    I bought a dress too quickly.  Before I even had my church or hall or date, and while I love the dress, my timeline changed and my dress just didnt fit my venue anymore, so I had to go out looking for something else.  If I had someone there telling me to wait and to think about it, I wouldnt be trying to sell it right now and I wouldnt be out the money.  

    My advice would be that if it’s meant to be your dress, then it will still be there when you get engaged and have a chance to start looking at dresses and start trying them on.  Keep in mind too that just because you like it in a picture, doesnt mean you will like it on.  You will find a gorgeous dress for your day, but take the time now to keep looking and keep your options open.  πŸ™‚

    Post # 16
    13561 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

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    @preppypeppytiff: Don’t worry. When it comes time to really get planning, you’ll find something you love. There are so many gorgeous dresses out there!

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