Is it to early to send out July invites? Most guests are OOT

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 31
283 posts
Helper bee

I feel like all the wedding invites we’ve gotten in the past couple years have been 10-12 weeks in advance and I’ve never even thought about it being early! I would send them out ASAP.

Post # 32
1819 posts
Buzzing bee

moto5522 :  Not at all. I sent my invites a few days ago this time last year that people were already recieving them. We had to have a headcount by June 1st so I wanted to have two weeks for straglers (which we had a lot of).

Post # 33
99 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

My wedding in July 1st, which is Canada Day and a long weekend here. My invites went out at the end of March. I had many friends asking when they would receive them prior to that. The room block for guests is only good until April 30th. Given we are getting married on the first long weekend of the summer, guests who not book in time may not get a room and our wedding is an hour minimum drive for most all our guests. Many had to books flights in addition.

My venue needs final numbers for June 15th so I gave an RSVP date of June 1st so I have time to touch bases with those who haven’t RSVP’d (which I have a feeling is going to be the vast majority). 

Post # 34
487 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

My RSVP date is 4 months before the wedding.  My venue (catering included) insists on full payment 12 weekd before the wedding date.  You have to go by what your suppliers are asking of you so send the invitations when you need to – people would rather have extra time to decide and plan than panic RSPV because of an imovable deadline.  

Post # 35
6928 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I dont mind sending early invites, but early RSVPS drive me insane. Did you actually sign contracts with deadlines of june 1? I dont even find that believable. And to not negotiate that is poor planning on your part.

Post # 36
3870 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

moto5522 :  If you need final answers by June 1st, send them out now. However, if your final numbers are due by June 1st, you should have set your RSVP window to be AT LEAST a full week ahead, if not more. Our vendors needed our final numbers a week ahead of our wedding, so we set the RSVP date ten days before. The day final numbers were due, I was calling people asking if they were coming. 

The sooner you get them out the better, especially as you’ve cut it so close. I’d start making calls about the 29th or 30th of May, as if they haven’t physically put their RSVP in the mail by then, it won’t make it to you in time. 

Also, for what it’s worth, I wouldn’t think twice if I got an invite for a July wedding now or next week. I really don’t see the harm in it. 

Post # 37
40 posts
  • Wedding: Sand Castle

 My wedding is 7/20/17 and we sent out invites yesterday!  It’s not too early.

Post # 38
925 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Vineyard on Long Island

moto5522 :  I’m sending mine out next week and my RSVP is also June 1.  I need numbers for vendors and such. Most guests are out of town and will need a hotel room.  The blocked hotel rooms open to the public in 2 weeks.  Girls’ gotta do what a girl’s gotta do.

ETA: I’m surprised there are so many people who dislike early RSVP dates…. if the whole guest list is out of town, how do you not know a month in advance if you’re coming or not?  Do people normally wait until 2 weeks before the decide if they’re going to a wedding?

Post # 39
651 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

moto5522 :  I’m going through a similar thing. Our wedding is July 22nd and because we are renting chairs, we need an exact count by June 22nd. I set my RSVP date to June 10th to give me a couple of weeks to collect any missing RSVP’s and still have time to give the chair count. I’m sending mine out the first week of May. April just sounds so much further away from July than May does for some reason, haha. 🙂

Post # 40
102 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Send them out whenever it makes you comfortable! If you have a lot of people who are flying in they will appricate the extra time to book flights and car rentals and everything else.  Even people with schedules that are not “traditional” Monday-Friday it will be helpful for! We have at least 30 guest with work schedules that change all the time, on routating weekends and whatever else so the extra time is giving them more time to find others to cover their shifts or switch weekends

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