Post # 1
I am new here becasue I need to find other people who are going through this or who have gone throught this… I got engaged on July 31st, 2015. My Fiancé and I have decided on the date of September 23rd, 2017, meaning I will be having a 2 year engagement. Obviously 2 years is awhile but it allows me to finish my education and save. I want to start the planning process and admit that I have, however all of my family members keep telling me its too soon. No one is excited for the planning and its really getting me down!
If anyone else has been through this I would apprecaite hearing how you dealt with it. Im finding it very disappointing and upsetting. Does it change? Is there a time thats too soon to start planning? Any help would be apprecaited!
Post # 2
Why is it too soon? Is it an age issue? As for planning, it might be early to start booking vendors if you haven’t saved the money yet oryou don’t know your financial situation after graduation.
Post # 3
I know someone who got engaged around the same time as you who is also getting married 9/2017. They were having a hard time planning because a lot of vendors and venues weren’t booking dates that far into the future. However, I think that’s starting to turn around as everyone who got engaged in the last few months starts to plan their weddings. I think everyone will get more excited the closer it gets. I’m only having an 11 month engagement and it’s only the last few months before the wedding that the excitement is ramping up.
Post # 4
mrsnitti17: Most people really aren’t that excited about someone else’s wedding planning. I would guess that for MOST people, the only ones really excited would be their parents. Maybe a BFF or sibling if they’ve always been close and excited about each other’s events. Other loved ones will be excited to come to the wedding and see you get married, but the planning isn’t that fun for them. Of course this isn’t always true, but I think it’s safe to assume for most people. So try not to let it get you down. You can always come here and have people give opinions and ooh and ahh with you. 🙂
Post # 5
Daisy_Mae: Thats my biggest issue though. Its my parents and his that are pessimestic about the planning process. They are all covinced its too soon to start planning and that I will change my mind. Its frustrating! But thanks, I look forward to this site. Maybe it will help!
Post # 6
It’s NEVER too soon! Honestly the more time the better! Makes your money go further, makes you less stressed and gives you plenty of time to make decisions without feeling rushed. Also many venues, DJs, Photographers etc book quickly, never hurts to book them as soon as you can.
Post # 7
I know some venues get booked out far in advance so if you want to confirm the date and venue that’s great, other than that I think you can afford to relax a bit. 2 years of wedding planning will probably drive you and everyone around you crazy. we got engaged last July and we marry in June and 11 months is plenty of time to worry about detail. Styes and your tastes will change over two years so nail down the crucial bits, which is usually the venue and date and then enjoy your engagement.
Post # 8
I had a 2 year engagement as well. The beginning was hard, I agree! A lot of people saying “that’s so far away”. I will say, I did start pretty early getting the big things locked down (venue, photographer, etc.)/vendors that were really important to me. They book up faster than you think sometimes.
I started by asking my bridesmaids about a month after I got engaged. That way it gave me something “wedding” to do and people to talk to it about. Then you can slowly start figuring out all of the details.
It is hard sometimes, but it hasn’t been stressful at all yet and I have been able to save slowly and whenever a payment comes up, or I see something I could use for decor, etc. I have my wedding savings that was built up in the beginning that I was able to pull from that was so great!
I would spend some time really figuring out what you want and then start doing things slowly. That way you will feel like you’re doing wedding things without actually having to commit, you can tour venues, try on dresses, and make sure you LOVE your options when the time comes.
Post # 9
I’m doing a long engagement as well (18 months) and am full into the planning because a lot of things book up surprisingly fast where we’re getting married (small town). One of the benefits of starting early I’ve found is not only do I get all the vendors I want, but they’re also locking me into 2015/2016 pricing so I’ll save some money!
Post # 10
Since you have 2 years, I would start ‘planning’ by making pinterest boards and keeping a notebook of ideas and vendors you’re interested in– brainstorm everything so then at 1 year when you have an official budget you can pinpoint al your ideas down and contact vendors.