(Closed) Is it too early to send something

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I would say it is too soon.  Wait at least another 6 weeks to give something to her.  This also gives you time to get together a really kick ass care package.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

@carolsdaughter:  I love giving gifts to my pregger’s friends. I gave a mommy to be sampler gift set and tell them that if they like something in particular I’ll get the normal size. You could do that.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2008

@subtlebee:  I understand that it is exciting, but what if her friend does miscarry?  Then she has a painful reminder sitting right there, staring her in the face.

I am unconventional.  I didn’t have a baby shower until the month after my first son was born.  And it wasn’t so much a baby shower as a “Meet the Baby” party.  But, then again, I am a little paranoid of “the worst case senario.”

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

@jehembee:  these are for while youre pregnant. like teas and such. waiting til the end would be pointless. And in my experience even if the baby is lost (which has only happened once in my life), they know you care and it isn’t like it can’t be thrown out.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2008

@subtlebee:  Well, it’s just my opinion that it is too soon.  If she was planning the pregnancy, then she would have everything she needs to get her through the first trimester just fine.  I would say a third trimester care package would probably be the most welcomed (I don’t know one pregnant lady was was happy and comfortable during her third trimester).

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would wait until she’s at least 12 weeks if you’re sending anything baby related. If its comfy pj’s, a mani/pedi gift certificate or gift card to get maternity clothes (…etc.) then its ok before 12 weeks in my opinion. 

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

One of my best friends bought me a water bottle when I first found out I was pregnant. She wrapped it up in pink and blue paper and gave me the sweetest card. It was the perfect gift as if something had happened, it wouldn’t be an obvious baby reminder… But she took the time to recognize that I was pregnant and celebrated the moment. And a large water bottle was amazing as I had been guzzling water!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’d wait just a bit longer. My good friend is about 10 weeks and telling only family and close friends. I plan to send a card and gift when she finds out what she’s having, just to be on the safe side. She said she isn’t telling everyone until she hears the heartbeat.  

If you do want to get her something, maybe a mani/pedi or a gift certificate for a massage (at a place that does both regular and prenatal massages) but hold off on baby related things until she’s a little further along just to be safe. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I got my friend a small care package with the “Preggo” pops (because she was having a lot of morning sickness) and few other small things to let her know that I was thinking about her – nothing big!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

@jehembee:  I dont think thats true. My mentor has been trying to get preggers for a year and when she did realized she was unprepaired. She loved the mommy to be gift set I gave her and the teas really helped with the sickness. If I’d waited til now to get it her sickness would be over. To each her own but I’ve never had a mommy to be not thankful for getting a trimester appropriate gift.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Fi and I got pregnant back in December of 2010 and 14 weeks into the pregnancy (a week before we were going to announce) I had a miscarriage. I told my BFF obviously when I found out (I was 6 weeks) and she bought me the most precious baby bedding set I had ever seen. After we lost the baby, I didn’t get rid of it, we put the set and a few other things that had been purchased in a hope chest. 

I think a mommy to be gift is a lovely idea! Go for it! And if you do decide on something baby-related, go for it! I know that having those clothes for our future child actually helped with my grieving. It was the same for Fiance. 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

@carolsdaughter:  I’d wait 

I told everyone early (7 weeks) and received some beautiful gifts.

unfortunetly I miscarried at almost 12 weeks. It was devastating seeing these gifts. These were for this baby that was not going to be it was so hard to see them. 

I ended giving them all to charity because I couldn’t use them now if I had another child their was too much emotion attached to them. 🙁

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