Post # 1
A couple of days ago one of PenguinGuy’s groomsmen had to drop out. He has an internship this summer and won’t be able to make it to the wedding at all. That is fine, it just means that our numbers will be slightly unbalanced. I can deal with that, I will just have one of the bridesmaids walk alone and then make sure that whoever does htat has a date at the wedding for the ‘bridal party dance’.
Well, yesterday he told me he felt guilty that the sides would be uneven and asked me if he should try to find another groomsman. I told him that he probably shouldn’t because we are less than 3 months out now and anyone he asks would know he wasn’t a ‘first choice’ groomsman.
Your thoughts Bees? Is it too late to add to the bridal party?
Also, he did joke around about having a female friend stand up as a groomsmaid. I have no problem with this but I fear that my mother might have a heart attack. (she is the kind of woman who freaked at hearing my desire to have non-white wedding shoes and who thinks that I am making a mockery out of the wedding as it is.)
Post # 3
I probably would suggest not asking anyone else. Uneven numbers isn’t too bad. Because you’re right, the friend will know they were a plan B, and I’m sure he doesn’t want to offend them. However, my Fiance has been close with his group of friends since they were nearly toddlers, so he would ask someone else in this situation, and it wouldn’t even be a big deal. His brother (who is in with the same group of friens) had to do that at around 3 months before and the replacement was so happy to help. So I guess it also depends on his relationship with the ‘back up plan’.
Post # 4
I think men are less touchy about these kinds of things. He could maybe ask someone that wasn’t really bothered either way? You know what I mean, someone who would be happy to take part, or equally happy to just turn up and enjoy the day. I’d say sure there’s no harm in asking. How many BMs do you have? Are his Groomsmen brothers/cousins/friends? would one of your BMs partners suit, maybe?
Obv it’s not a big deal to have odd numbers, I’m just a sucker for symmetry.
Post # 5
@ Aunt Pol, I have a Maid/Matron of Honor and 5 bridesmaids. Right now he has his best man and 4 groomsmen. Of the 5 guys in the wedding, he works with 2 of them, one is my sister’s husband, one is a long time friend of his, and the last is the S/O of one of his sisters.
The groomsman that had to drop out is the S/O of his other sister. I should also mention that both of his sisters are bridesmaids. 🙂
Like I said, I can deal with uneven numbers, but he feels guilty! lol