(Closed) Is it too late to back out as a bridemaid????

• annabell
• 7 years ago

I am mostly writing this in search of some advice.  I was asked to be in a wedding this summer, we are in the final stages of planning the shower/bach party.  it has come to our attention that the bride does not like the idea of bach party (night out on the town, limo included) instead “she” wants a night out at the beach (over night stay) it has also come to our attention that the bride will not go out downtown and will only accept the over night stay at the  beach.  Let me also say she demanded 2 showers (one out of town where she is getting married and one local where she lives) and 2 bach parties.  The out of town shower was a bust..  nothing was planned accordingly and no bach party was given.  So now it seems that everything is up to us “the local” shower planners to make up for the failed out of town shower.  I feel like I am dealing with a “child” the bride.  She has thrown a tamtrum crying about this over night stay and complaing that no one has asked her what she wants to do.  I thought that the shower and bach party was a gift from the bridesmaids.  We asked her for ideas, didn’t know the entire night was suppose to be planned by the bride.  Two bridesmaid can not do an over night stay and she is demanding this must happen.  All the bridesmaid have families and kids and the bride has a son, who her mother takes care of..  I feel disrepected and insulted that she doesn’t appreciate the time, money and effort of what we were originally going to do for her.  I also don’t understand how this shower/bach party is number one on her list of things to worry about.  She hasn’t sent out wedding invitation or purchased her dress yet and the wedding is less then two month away.  Her priority are in the wrong order.  A number of people have been telling me to get out of the wedding and I am not sure if that is possible now.    This is just a small peice of what has evolved in the last three month, there is plenty more to this saga, but this is the part that I am very hurt by, especially when we trying to make this a special day for her..