Is it too late to postpone the wedding?

posted 2 months ago in Engagement
Post # 2
5036 posts
Bee Keeper

Personally, I think there are very few reasons to *postpone* a wedding this late. However, it sounds like this would be a case of *calling off* the wedding, which is 100% OK IMO. 

Yes, it sucks for your family, but you shouldn’t feel pressured to go through with a wedding to someone you don’t even want to be with. Start calling vendors, family, etc ASAP so people have as much notice as possible. It sounds like your wedding is literal weeks away, so if you aren’t sure you need to do it like yesterday. 

Post # 3
797 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

Do not get married. I would just call it off completely. Work through your issues and schedule a new wedding if it works out. 


Divorce is 5000000 times worse than just calling off the wedding. Promise. 

Post # 4
3604 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

It is never too late to call off a wedding! 

Yes it’s a bit annoying for your friends or family who have already booked hotels etc but then being out $100 is absolutely not more important than your happiness. 

Never, ever marry a man who lays a hand in you. Not matter what he tells you.

Post # 5
1929 posts
Buzzing bee

I would say it’s only too late to postpone the wedding if the recessional music has started.  

Post # 7
2067 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

You family and friends would much rather deal with the inconvenience of a cancelled wedding than find out years down the road that you went through with marrying a physically and abusive man because you didn’t want to inconvenience them.

He’s been physically abusive in the past, you are fighting constantly, and you are going into this *hoping* that things change and *hoping* that he never abuses you again. I think you know that’s not the right course of action for you.

You deserve better. Your family and friends deserve better. Call off the wedding.

Post # 8
6134 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

holly10 :  “He has had a history of being verbally/physically abusive to me”

This is all you needed to say. Get out. Get out now. Forget about postponing, just cancel it entirely. It’s never too late. Do not marry him. 

Post # 9
2324 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Bee at this point you need to put your own safety first. Do not marry this man. Call it off entirely. Your guests will understand! 

Post # 10
3472 posts
Sugar bee

I am not even going to read the whole thing.  I got to doubts and that is it.


It is your forever at stake. You owe it to yourself to be 100% sure always.  No one else is f*cking owed a wedding just because they traveled or put down deposits or whatever.  You always always always have the right to say no, I don’t care if you’re at the damn altar and decide to just run right back up the aisle runaway bride style.

Post # 11
71 posts
Worker bee

Don’t postpone it. Call off the relationship, work on yourself, find a new guy (when you’re ready), and have another wedding where your friends and family will be just as thrilled for you. Life is too short to be stuck in a miserable marriage. Live your best life! 

Post # 12
617 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 1983

Hope is not a plan. Call off the wedding now. He’s abusive, and it’s not going to get better.

Post # 13
1272 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2020

Call it completely off. You should not be going through this much normally, right before a wedding no less. Dump him and find someone who can communicate and respect you.

Post # 14
220 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Call it off. Never, ever marry someone because you feel obligated not to inconvenience others. It never ends well.

Post # 15
4320 posts
Honey bee

Call it off. I’d rather fly out to see/console a friend than have her go through with a wedding she no longer wants just because I bought a ticket. 

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