Post # 1
In november or so I told my boyfriend that it would be pretty great to get engaged on my 30th birthday ( February 16).
I think he is definitely proposing then, but there’s something bothering me… I would absolutely prefer an intimate proposal.
A few weeks ago he came with a question that I am only now putting together. He was saying that as we age our group of friends change etc, and who would I say were the closest people to me. It was a very lighearted conversation about friendship, and at the time I didn’t make the connection.
Last week I asked if that question was related to “you know what”. (I’m very curious, so we just pretend my “suggestion” regarding the date never happened)
Turned out the IT WAS related and now I’m worried that the proposal is going to involve our friends.
Considering it’s February already, is it too late to say something?
I think he mixed birthday and birthday party and I took too long to realize.
Post # 2
- Wedding: July 2018 - Fremont, CA
It is not too late, no. Do it ASAP.
Post # 3
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
Are you sure he’s not planning a surprise birthday party, and then intends to propose to you privately at the end of the night? When you asked what his idea of a perfect proposal was, what did he say? He might be trying to create whatever that is.
Post # 4
Do it now–theres no harm. My two criteria were that it be intimate and not bizarre (like on the toilet or something), but I didn’t communicate that and it ended up being super public in front of we knew. I wish I had told him ahead of time, because he noticed that I seemed uncomfortable (I was both very happy and very uncomfortable) and I know he felt sad about it.
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre
In my opinion if he’s proposing then he should plan it his way and propose in the way that he sees fit. If you want a proposal to be a certain way then you propose to him.
Post # 6
You’ve already told him the exact date he should propose on so I would just leave it and let him do it. I agree with the PP that is you want him to propose you can’t decide every little detail for him or you should ask yourself.
Post # 7
Never to late to say you would like an intimate proposal.
Post # 8
I think you should let him plan it.
Post # 9
I don’t understand why you want to control so much of the proposal.
Post # 10
If you ate someone who would really hate a public proposal, I think you to tell him ASAP.
I know I would have hated one so much, I’m not sure how I would have reacted- it’s quber possible I would have bolted from the room/location or burst into panicked tears and frozen. Neither of which would be good!
Post # 11
Considering what has already been said by you and your SO, at this point I’d let him do it his way. Or maybe I am just too happy to see a man be responsive to a timeline. 🙂
Post # 12
As long as he hasn’t proposed yet, it is not too late.
Post # 13
You’ve already told him when to propose, and now you’re going to tell him how, too? If you’re going to do that, you may as well write a script for him, too. A proposal should have to do with both of you, so let him do something his way.
Post # 14
Thanks for the replys! I talked to him and it went great.
He said: It won’t be the way you are thinking, don’t worry. And made that face that tells you so much without saying a word.
He is just the best!
Some of you were pretty harsh. I wasn’t and am not trying to control the proposal, I was worried that saying about my birthday (meaning just the date) had trew him in a direction that contradicted what I had been saying all the time (intimate proposal).
Post # 15
might be misreading this but some people hate things like this. I’m fine with friends and family but would prefer just the two of us.
I also hate idea of a public proposal in front of a bunch of random strangers.