Post # 1
Our wedding is May 18, 2013, we just got our engagement pictures back and my fiance and I had kind of decided that we weren’t going to send out Save-The-Date Cards. However, my mother-in-law said she thinks that we should. And a couple of other people have said that we should as well. If we got them out around the 1st of the year would that be too late to send them out? Advice please!
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2013 - The bride's hometown United Methodist Church near Kalamazoo
We just sent ours out (like, last weekend!) and our wedding is before yours (same month!). So I wouldn’t worry about it: since invites are normally sent 2 or 3 months in advance, they’d still get them 2 or 3 months before the invites. I’d say go for it! (Unless you don’t want to, then it’s unneccessary: really, if you think they’re awesome, send them. If you think they’re silly, don’t!).
Post # 4
As long as there’s a month or so before sending the invites, I think it’s fine. I had no idea what the etiquette was until I started planning my own wedding, so I doubt most people do 🙂
We decided to do email save the dates to save a little money. I’m not sure if that would work for you, but could be a compromise with your Mother in law.
Post # 5
I don’t really think there’s a point. First, your wedding isn’t during the summer or on a 3-day weekend or anytime where people go away a lot – so it’s really not necessary. Second, you’ll be sending out your invites in like 2-3 months anyway. If you want to, go ahead. But, if you want to save the money, I think it’s perfectly acceptable not to send them out at this point.
Post # 6
Do most people on your guest list informally know the date or general time range? If so, I wouldn’t send them. If I’d known the date for awhile just from us chatting or your mom telling me or seeing it on Facebook, I’d think it was weird to get a Save the Date that close to when the invites would be going out.
If most people on your guest list don’t know the date, I would send them. If I knew you were engaged but didn’t know when the wedding was, I’d DEFINITELY appreciate a heads up at the beginning of the year so I could get it penciled in!
Post # 7
@KLB264: if you want to send them out send them. when will they be completed by? my wedding was april 28 and i sent my std out last december. it just gave my guests a heads up for their busy calendars. my invites were sent 8 weeks prior to wedding date.
Post # 8
@KLB264: My wedding’s not too far after yours and people just got ours.
Post # 9
Our wedding is May 25, 2013 and we sent our Save-The-Date Cards out about a month and a half ago.
It depends on when you plan on sending out invites. We’re trying to execute an A-list and B-list thing so our A-list invites are going out Feb 25, B-list Mar 25.
If invites are going to be going out a month or 2 after STD’s are received, I’d say just save your money and spend a little extra somewhere else. If you have lots of travelling guests, maybe you could call them and let them know of the date ahead of time.
Post # 10
@KLB264: Are there any people that will have to fly in and book hotels/cars? Generally that’s mainly who the Save-The-Date Cards are for or if it’s a popular holiday weekend.
Since you’re 5 months out, and Save-The-Date Cards generally go 8-12 months out, I probably would not send out Save-The-Date Cards. However, you could make a cute digital STD to send to those people that would have to fly in. Save-The-Date Cards are casual mailings, do not set the tone of the wedding, and digital can work.
Or just print/frame some of your engagement photos to display at your wedding reception.