(Closed) Is it too late to send out Save the Dates?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
153 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - The bride's hometown United Methodist Church near Kalamazoo

We just sent ours out (like, last weekend!) and our wedding is before yours (same month!). So I wouldn’t worry about it: since invites are normally sent 2 or 3 months in advance, they’d still get them 2 or 3 months before the invites. I’d say go for it! (Unless you don’t want to, then it’s unneccessary: really, if you think they’re awesome, send them. If you think they’re silly, don’t!). 

Post # 4
815 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

As long as there’s a month or so before sending the invites, I think it’s fine.  I had no idea what the etiquette was until I started planning my own wedding, so I doubt most people do 🙂 

We decided to do email save the dates to save a little money.  I’m not sure if that would work for you, but could be a compromise with your Mother in law.

Post # 5
6741 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I don’t really think there’s a point.  First, your wedding isn’t during the summer or on a 3-day weekend or anytime where people go away a lot – so it’s really not necessary.  Second, you’ll be sending out your invites in like 2-3 months anyway.  If you want to, go ahead.  But, if you want to save the money, I think it’s perfectly acceptable not to send them out at this point. 

Post # 6
2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Do most people on your guest list informally know the date or general time range? If so, I wouldn’t send them. If I’d known the date for awhile just from us chatting or your mom telling me or seeing it on Facebook, I’d think it was weird to get a Save the Date that close to when the invites would be going out.

If most people on your guest list don’t know the date, I would send them. If I knew you were engaged but didn’t know when the wedding was, I’d DEFINITELY appreciate a heads up at the beginning of the year so I could get it penciled in!

Post # 7
11271 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@KLB264:  if you want to send them out send them.  when will they be completed by?  my wedding was april 28 and i sent my std out last december.  it just gave my guests a heads up for their busy calendars.  my invites were sent 8 weeks prior to wedding date.

Post # 8
424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@KLB264:  My wedding’s not too far after yours and people just got ours.

Post # 9
71 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Our wedding is May 25, 2013 and we sent our Save-The-Date Cards out about a month and a half ago.

It depends on when you plan on sending out invites. We’re trying to execute an A-list and B-list thing so our A-list invites are going out Feb 25, B-list Mar 25.

If invites are going to be going out a month or 2 after STD’s are received, I’d say just save your money and spend a little extra somewhere else. If you have lots of travelling guests, maybe you could call them and let them know of the date ahead of time.

Post # 10
6123 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@KLB264:  Are there any people that will have to fly in and book hotels/cars?  Generally that’s mainly who the Save-The-Date Cards are for or if it’s a popular holiday weekend.

Since you’re 5 months out, and Save-The-Date Cards generally go 8-12 months out, I probably would not send out Save-The-Date Cards.  However, you could make a cute digital STD to send to those people that would have to fly in.  Save-The-Date Cards are casual mailings, do not set the tone of the wedding, and digital can work.

Or just print/frame some of your engagement photos to display at your wedding reception.

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