(Closed) Is it too late to send Thank You cards?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: When did you send your Thank You Cards
    The day after the wedding : (1 votes)
    2 %
    The week I got back from my honeymoon : (3 votes)
    6 %
    Within the first month : (28 votes)
    55 %
    After the first month- please explain : (19 votes)
    37 %
  • Post # 3
    7902 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    Most of ours went out 4-8 weeks after the wedding, but we are still getting stray gifts now and I have 3 waiting to be written and mailed. I’d jsut try to get them to your gift givers by 2 or 3 months after you got the gift. And it’s never too late to still send one!

    ETA: last week we were on vacation with FI’s family, nuclear and extended, and we got lots of compliments on our photo thank you cards (ordered through WeddingPaperDivas) and on the timeliness and thoughtfulness of them. I wrote a lot to each person and was very specific and sincere. I usually filled the entire card in my rather small writing.

    Post # 4
    11234 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    According to Emily Post, it’s within three months of the receipt of the gift.

    Post # 5
    4419 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Usually you want to get them out within a month of returning from your honeymoon, if, of course, you left for your honeymoon right away…  In our situation, we still haven’t gone on a honeymoon, so I sent them within a month of our reception.


    Post # 6
    715 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    It hasn’t even been a month!  I’d say you’re still fine. 

    Post # 7
    3626 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Obviously the sooner the better, but I think you still have some time.

    Post # 8
    120 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I recently received a thank you that was over 6 months after the wedding! At that point I didn’t think we were going to get a Thank You.

     I think sending them out within 1-3months is polite…but it all really depends on your personal situation like a long honeymoon or moving after the wedding, etc.

    Post # 11
    735 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Did you receive the gifts prior to your wedding day? – That’s the only way I could see people inquiring as to whether or not you actually recieved the gift.

    BUT the golden standard for sending thank you notes is to send them before you go to bed on the day you receive the gift.  So, yes, you really ought to be getting them out within the first month… Even that is “lax” in the eyes of some gift givers.

    Your plan to buy nice stationary and send out your thank yous now, instead of continuing to wait for the photo version, is a good one.

    Post # 12
    5221 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I think you are still well within your window of time. We sent them out 3-4 weeks after, with a later ” batch” going out as some gifts trickled in. Now we just send them as we receive gifts

    Post # 13
    1375 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think they’re a little ridiculous for giving you a hard time for not getting TYs out less than a month after the wedding, unless you received the gifts beforehand.

    Post # 14
    672 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    My wedding was June 24, and I have yet to send out a single thank you card. I managed to get a pic from the photographer that I wanted on our thank you cards, ordered the cards to be printed before honeymoon, and received them when we got back just over a week ago. I’ll probably start writing them later this week or this weekend. I think it is still fine to send them out 2 months out. People have to understand that there is a lot going on, honeymoons, opening gifts, putting gifts away, returning gifts, etc…. we’ve done all that. now I guess it’s time to write them!

    Post # 15
    5296 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1993

    I also did photo thank yous and had to wait 8 weeks for my photog, plus 2 for the cards to be printed. I got the thank yous out just under the 3 month mark, which seems typical or faster than thank yous I’ve received from other weddings.


    You’re fine! Your mom should tell her friends to cool their heels!

    Post # 16
    7902 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    Also, some of my mom’s friends asked if we had received out gifts not because they were upset they hadn’t gotten a Thank You yet but just to check on the status of the shipment. Your mom could be blowing this out of proportion. My mom just told them, yes, they got the gift and will be sending out formal thanks soon. When possible, as soon as we got a gift, we emailed or texted the sender to say a package had arrived and formal thanks were of course to follow but we wanted them to know it arrived in one piece. We even took a picture of us cooking in the Le Creuset dutch oven we got and sent it to DH’s aunt and uncle saying we were so excited and had to use it right away.

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