Post # 1
I was married on 6/23/12 and then was out of the country until 7/4. I have been waiting to get some pro pics back to make personalized thank you cards to send to our guests but as luck would have it, they have been out of the country for the past week and wont be back until next.
My mom wrote me today and asked me if I had sent them out. She is upset becuase some of her friends have asked if I recieved my gift becuase they don’t have thank you cards yet.
Am I ridiculous for thinking that I still have a little time for thank yous? I told her I would go ahead and get some cards at the store and send them out tomorrow and then send a Christmas card with our wedding pictures on it.
I haven’t even been back from our honeymoon for two weeks and I didn’t think I was out of time to get the thank you’s out yet.
When did you send yours?
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Most of ours went out 4-8 weeks after the wedding, but we are still getting stray gifts now and I have 3 waiting to be written and mailed. I’d jsut try to get them to your gift givers by 2 or 3 months after you got the gift. And it’s never too late to still send one!
ETA: last week we were on vacation with FI’s family, nuclear and extended, and we got lots of compliments on our photo thank you cards (ordered through WeddingPaperDivas) and on the timeliness and thoughtfulness of them. I wrote a lot to each person and was very specific and sincere. I usually filled the entire card in my rather small writing.
Post # 4
According to Emily Post, it’s within three months of the receipt of the gift.
Post # 5
Usually you want to get them out within a month of returning from your honeymoon, if, of course, you left for your honeymoon right away… In our situation, we still haven’t gone on a honeymoon, so I sent them within a month of our reception.
Post # 6
It hasn’t even been a month! I’d say you’re still fine.
Post # 7
Obviously the sooner the better, but I think you still have some time.
Post # 8
I recently received a thank you that was over 6 months after the wedding! At that point I didn’t think we were going to get a TY.
I think sending them out within 1-3months is polite…but it all really depends on your personal situation like a long honeymoon or moving after the wedding, etc.
Post # 10
@vorpalette: That’s what I thought! Of course, I dont want to wait that long but I think I am still good. Maybe I will just send them to her friends and family and then send personalized cards with wedding photos to our friends.
Post # 11
Did you receive the gifts prior to your wedding day? – That’s the only way I could see people inquiring as to whether or not you actually recieved the gift.
BUT the golden standard for sending thank you notes is to send them before you go to bed on the day you receive the gift. So, yes, you really ought to be getting them out within the first month… Even that is “lax” in the eyes of some gift givers.
Your plan to buy nice stationary and send out your thank yous now, instead of continuing to wait for the photo version, is a good one.
Post # 12
I think you are still well within your window of time. We sent them out 3-4 weeks after, with a later ” batch” going out as some gifts trickled in. Now we just send them as we receive gifts
Post # 13
I think they’re a little ridiculous for giving you a hard time for not getting TYs out less than a month after the wedding, unless you received the gifts beforehand.
Post # 14
My wedding was June 24, and I have yet to send out a single thank you card. I managed to get a pic from the photographer that I wanted on our thank you cards, ordered the cards to be printed before honeymoon, and received them when we got back just over a week ago. I’ll probably start writing them later this week or this weekend. I think it is still fine to send them out 2 months out. People have to understand that there is a lot going on, honeymoons, opening gifts, putting gifts away, returning gifts, etc…. we’ve done all that. now I guess it’s time to write them!
Post # 15
I also did photo thank yous and had to wait 8 weeks for my photog, plus 2 for the cards to be printed. I got the thank yous out just under the 3 month mark, which seems typical or faster than thank yous I’ve received from other weddings.
You’re fine! Your mom should tell her friends to cool their heels!
Post # 16
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Also, some of my mom’s friends asked if we had received out gifts not because they were upset they hadn’t gotten a TY yet but just to check on the status of the shipment. Your mom could be blowing this out of proportion. My mom just told them, yes, they got the gift and will be sending out formal thanks soon. When possible, as soon as we got a gift, we emailed or texted the sender to say a package had arrived and formal thanks were of course to follow but we wanted them to know it arrived in one piece. We even took a picture of us cooking in the Le Creuset dutch oven we got and sent it to DH’s aunt and uncle saying we were so excited and had to use it right away.