(Closed) Is it too late to start over?

posted 6 years ago in July 2013
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Chuby:  It might be short notice, but you can certainly achieve your dream wedding. First and foremost, determine what you wanted originally (intimate, potluck, etc), and then consider having the venue be someplace NOT at FILs’, like a park, or someone else’s property, barn, etc. After you’ve figured that out, have Fiance sit his mother down and explain that what you both initially wanted has disappeared in all the ‘excitement’ (aka interference), and that you’ve both decided to get back to basics. Maybe consider having just parents/siblings/grandparents and the wedding party for wedding itself, and consider holding a reception later on, whether it be later in the week, month, or year, when you feel comfortable, and invite everyone else to celebrate your marriage. Good luck!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Chuby:  I know how you feel! Fiance is also his parents’ one and only ‘baby’, so they insist on throwing a reception etc. Maybe let your FIL’s host a celebratory gathering more to their taste AFTER your wedding and reception…..like a month later or something? That way it’s on a different date, you don’t have to stress about wedding any more, etc. Keep your wedding/reception as bad ass as you wanna make it, let the party poopers go home early if they want, and your future in laws can host their own version of what they want some other time, and make all their decisions without overshadowing your original plan. That way you spend a few hours ‘at their mercy’ and not weeks and months and an entire day. 😀

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Chuby:  Oh my gosh. Date twin AND city twin. Small flippin’ world. And no, not too late to start over. Write out everything you want and when to get it done. If anyone throws a fit about not getting an invite just tell them that your guest list went to close family and friends only.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Chuby:  Nope.  A church on the north side and then reception indoors in a pavilion. And giiiirl, I’m praying to everything that it doesn’t rain because I want pictures downtown (like everybody who gets married here does haha). I’ve looked at past weather reports for our day and it seems like only 10% of the time for the past 10 years it rained so fingers crossed. Knowing our luck we will get a tornado and then it will snow after. Oh, Springfield. 

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