Post # 1
My fiance and I can’t decide who is right on this topic. We are having a budget wedding (around 13k), and are trying to stick to that number. We are having cupcakes instead of a traditional wedding cake. We will have about 75 cupcakes, and our bakery charges $50 for delivery and set up. For flowers, we are having bouquets, bouts and an alter arrangement. Our centerpieces and other decor will be non-floral. Our florist wants to charge us $50 to deliver the flowers to the venue.
Those two delivery charges will total $100, which to me seems like a lot of money. The bakery and the florist are about 15 minute drives from the venue, so I don’t consider that very far. I told Fiance we should ask a family member to pick up the items for us, but he says that is too much of an inconvenience. He doesn’t want to stress anyone out. I told him if my family member were getting married, I would be willing to help out any way that I could, but he doesn’t have the same point of view. What do you bees think? Should we cough up the $100 for delivery fees, or is it worth asking someone to do it for us?
Post # 3
Are there any family members that are actively involved in the wedding/wedding planning process with you?
Post # 4
I don’t see why not. It’s worth a shot anyways!
Post # 5
@bride2befl21340: Not really. I’ve been doing all the wedding planning myself, since my family all live out of town. His family live in town, but they haven’t been too involved.
Post # 6
Pay the money and don’t ask your guests. Its very rude. Best to leave it to the professionals.
Post # 7
Neither of those things sound like anything that is too much for someone who has been involved in your wedding so far.
Post # 8
To me, just delivery isn’t worth it, but delivery plus set-up definitely is. Delivery AND set-up may take your family an hour or so, it seems pretty inconvenient for them just to save $100.
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat
a budget wedding is 13k?! Jesus I am screwed.
Post # 10
I will only ask family if they offered to help. If they don’t intend to help you out, it’s going to be hard to ask.
Will you have bridal party that day? Maybe have a couple groomsmen pick it up?
Post # 11
Since no one has been involved up until this point it probably isn’t such a good idea to ask someone to do this. You don’t want them to feel used or like you only want them involved for your convenience. However, I agree with a PP who made the distinction between just delivery and delivery and set-up. Who would be setting up the cupcake display and all the floral arragnements, or what have you?
Post # 12
I don’think its too much if there’s somebody who’s wanting to help out and seems interested. I might be a little worried to be transporting the cupcakes because it would be so easy to ruin them with one hard stop or sharp turn. I might want to pay the 50 bucks to ensure that if they did go flyIng during delivery it would be the vendors responsibility to replace theM.
Post # 13
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I think only if someone asks. FI’s aunt has volunteered to help, so we’re going to have her bring the flowers (DIY) from my house to the hotel, and Maid/Matron of Honor has volunteered her husband to transport the booze.
My Mom and a friend were going to make our cupcakes, and the more we thought about it, the more we realized the potential for disaster (aka transporting) them.
If you’re looking to save money, have you thought about DIY flowers? If the altar arrangement is the only other flower other than bouquets/bouts, a member of the wedding party could easily pick it up.
Post # 14
I agree w/ PPs to ask only if someone has offered to help. No family other than my mom and step dad have offered, BUT we’ve had plenty of friends offer! I do agree that if it includes set up it may be worth it. The other thing to consider for the cupcakes is that if anything gets dropped, smushed, etc. than the baker/delivery person is able to do more (and be responsible). I only say this b/c I was in a wedding two summers ago, and I guess the cake got smushed all on one side – and the bakery didn’t deliver it. The brdie totally freaked.
Post # 15
if your delievery and setup were any more then $100, I’d say try to enlist a willing helper, but that’s pretty cheap, and if someone drops something you can chew a vendor’s head off without worrying about it later. Family–not so much 😛
Post # 16
I would get the delivery for the soul reason that if anything goes wrong it is the company’s problem. One fast stop/fender bender on the way over could send your cup cakes flying all over a car and be ruined- if you Aunt May is driving it means no cake, if it is the bakery then they need to replace
Also once delivery is taken there is no recourse so if the flowers are wrong etc then you technically (by proxy) accepted delivery. Just things to consider.