(Closed) Is it too much to ask family members to pick up flowers and cupcakes?

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Are there any family members that are actively involved in the wedding/wedding planning process with you?

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t see why not.  It’s worth a shot anyways!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Pay the money and don’t ask your guests. Its very rude. Best to leave it to the professionals.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Neither of those things sound like anything that is too much for someone who has been involved in your wedding so far.  

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

To me, just delivery isn’t worth it, but delivery plus set-up definitely is. Delivery AND set-up may take your family an hour or so, it seems pretty inconvenient for them just to save $100. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

a budget wedding is 13k?! Jesus I am screwed.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I will only ask family if they offered to help.  If they don’t intend to help you out, it’s going to be hard to ask.

Will you have bridal party that day?  Maybe have a couple groomsmen pick it up? 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Since no one has been involved up until this point it probably isn’t such a good idea to ask someone to do this. You don’t want them to feel used or like you only want them involved for your convenience. However, I agree with a PP who made the distinction between just delivery and delivery and set-up. Who would be setting up the cupcake display and all the floral arragnements, or what have you?

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’think its too much if there’s somebody who’s wanting to help out and seems interested. I might be a little worried to be transporting the cupcakes because it would be so easy to ruin them with one hard stop or sharp turn. I might want to pay the 50 bucks to ensure that if they did go flyIng during delivery it would be the vendors responsibility to replace theM. 

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I think only if someone asks. FI’s aunt has volunteered to help, so we’re going to have her bring the flowers (DIY) from my house to the hotel, and Maid/Matron of Honor has volunteered her husband to transport the booze.

My Mom and a friend were going to make our cupcakes, and the more we thought about it, the more we realized the potential for disaster (aka transporting) them.

If you’re looking to save money, have you thought about DIY flowers? If the altar arrangement is the only other flower other than bouquets/bouts, a member of the wedding party could easily pick it up.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I agree w/ PPs to ask only if someone has offered to help. No family other than my mom and step dad have offered, BUT we’ve had plenty of friends offer! I do agree that if it includes set up it may be worth it. The other thing to consider for the cupcakes is that if anything gets dropped, smushed, etc. than the baker/delivery person is able to do more (and be responsible). I only say this b/c I was in a wedding two summers ago, and I guess the cake got smushed all on one side – and the bakery didn’t deliver it. The brdie totally freaked.

Post # 15
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Helper bee

if your delievery and setup were any more then $100, I’d say try to enlist a willing helper, but that’s pretty cheap, and if someone drops something you can chew a vendor’s head off without worrying about it later. Family–not so much 😛

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper

I would get the delivery for the soul reason that if anything goes wrong it is the company’s problem. One fast stop/fender bender on the way over could send your cup cakes flying all over a car and be ruined- if you Aunt May is driving it means no cake, if it is the bakery then they need to replace

Also once delivery is taken there is no recourse so if the flowers are wrong etc then you technically (by proxy) accepted delivery. Just things to consider.

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