(Closed) Is it too much to ask family members to pick up flowers and cupcakes?

posted 9 years ago in Logistics
Post # 17
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think that it’s rude to ask your invited guests to do tasks for your wedding preparations, especially when you have other options (the vendor delivering directly).  I wouldn’t ask them, even if they offered to help – a lot of people just offer and don’t think you’ll actually take them up on it! 

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I totally say go for it. We’re getting people to do all kinds of pick up – FI’s brother has to pick up gluten-free brownies and the rental car, my brother has to move our (ENORMOUS) flower delivery from our house to the church, my mom has to pick up flowers and food trays from Costco on Friday before the rehersal dinner… I don’t see it as a big deal.

Post # 20
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

It really depends who you are going to ask. if you are just going to ask some cousin that is just attending your wedding I think that might be odd. however, to ask a close girl friend that has been helping out or another family member that has been active and willing to help I think they would totally do it. My main concern is the flowers. But, I say you go for it!

Post # 21
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

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@sherryberry:  lol, no you are not screwed, I dont consider 13k a budget wedding! I did mine in way under 5K and it was fabulous!!

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t think it’s particularly rude, but I would pay the $100, which isn’t that much out of a $13,000 budget. The flowers could be dropped (I was reading a florist’s blogs about how one of the altar centerpieces had to be eliminated when a groomsman dropped it moving up the stairs) and the cupcakes too. It’s a fair price, it will eliminate you worrying (what if Aunt Jane forgets the flowers? Or is running late? etc.)

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would like my guests to be worry free when coming Ho my wedding. I am paying a $50 delivery fee for a $25 cake. 

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would not waste money on the flower delivery…this was a huge sticking point with the florist I was going to go with. She insisted that she deliver the five bouquets, 8 bouts, and 3 corsages for $100. I thought that was ridiculous. It’s one thing if the florist is doing set up and arrangement on site, it’s a totally different thing if it’s just bouquets and bouts that can be picked up the day before and kept in water or the fridge.  We ended up going with a different florist who I could pick up from (FBIL is actually grabbing them the day before because he lives .5 mile away from her and volunteered.

Cupcakes are a whole different story. Transporting a dozen cupcakes to work for a potluck is difficult enough…75 for a wedding doesn’t sound like a task to take lightly. Definitely agree that the delivery fee for that is worth paying.

 

Post # 25
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

when do you need to cup cakes picked up? I dont think its a big deal to ask your family to pick it up, you or your Fiance could also pick it up.  If its early in the morning on the day of I would pick it up myself. For my wedding I was up at 7 am to sign my cake delivery, I also had to do the decorations for the reception and then drive to get my hair done. My husband picked up some of our orders as well.

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If one of my close friends or cousins asked me to do either of those tasks for them, I would be completely happy to do it! 

Post # 27
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Honey Beekeeper

We had some family help bring flowers from the church to the reception. They were happy to help. I think it’s fine to ask!

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I would only ask people who are already helping with things.  This seems like a good groomsman task for the morning-of.

I just went to a wedding where I was asked to pick up food for the rehearsal dinner (but wasn’t in the rehearsal).  Its not a huge deal, but it didn’t make me feel great when I had to go run errands & set up while all the other guests could leisurely enjoy themselves.  IMO, guests are guests and should be treated as such.

Post # 29
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Bee Keeper

You’re spending $13 thousand dollars and you don’t want to pay $100 for delivery? If you were poor, I would say that it’s okay….. but obviously you have the money…..

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I would personally be terrified that the cupcakes would get wrecked and then howterrible would that family member feel? And no cupcakes:( I would be willing to pay delivery on that ! 

Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I know you would only ask close family members, but really it is best to only get help from those who offer.  I would advise leaving the delivery and setup to the professionals.

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