(Closed) Is it too much to ask family members to pick up flowers and cupcakes?

posted 9 years ago in Logistics
Post # 32
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5653 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I don’t think it hurts to ask if someone would like to do it. Someone probably won’t mind. 🙂 If it were me though I would just spend the $100, that seems reasonable to me and then I don’t have to worry about it.

Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I do NOT agree that this is too much to ask from your immediate family since it’s really not that inconvenient.  Like, at all. It’s not like you’re asking them to decorate the entire location while you get a pedicure (or are you? 😉 ).  I mean, I can’t even get my mother to chill about my wedding.  I am adding a couple of servers so that guests don’t have to bus their own plates and she said ‘well, I thought that was what I was doing’ and we never even spoke about it.  Trust me, your family wants you less stressed.  And since you’re doing everything, this might make them feel more included. Just ask!

Utopia has a point though….maybe only ask for the flowers to be picked up!!  lol

Post # 34
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4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

If it were me, I’d just pay the $100.  That way the company/vendor is liable for anything that happens during transport, and I would avoid having to ask anyone to run an errand for me.

Post # 35
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869 posts
Busy bee

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with asking people to help you out.  I’ve noticed that sometimes it’s the people who have their parents paying for the entire wedding that say “Oh, no, you can’t possibly ask your guests.”  They’re not in your shoes, it’s different.  I would have no problem helping out a friend/family member.

Post # 36
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2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t see any problem here, especially if you ask a member of the bridal party.

Post # 37
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9541 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

My two cents: I am having my friends and family contribute HUGE to the wedding. In fact I’m asking about a dozen people to make a dessert apiece that will replace our wedding cake. And I love it. I love that my community of friends and family is coming together to make this awesome day. I don’t think it’s rude at all. In fact, I think it builds a sense of community and makes the day more of a group event than “All About Me Day”. Now, that being said, my family and friends have been volunteering to help from the day I got engaged. If people weren’t volunteering I might reconsider, but I find it hard to believe that anyone can get married without someone offering to help out. So yes, I think it’s fine to ask someone you are close to and that you trust to pick up these deliveries. The flowers, especially, will be easy. As long as they know what needs to be done, it should be fine. And while $100 is not a ton of money, why spend it if you don’t have to?

Post # 38
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93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think you should ask people to help.  You know best who wouldn’t mind.  I know I will be asking some of our close family/friends for help and most of them have already offered.  People know weddings cost sooo much $$$ and are usually happy to help.  I have been asked to help before and I am happy that I could help with one or two little things that were minor to me but a huge relief to the bride and groom.  🙂

Post # 40
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3696 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Depends what you get for the $50.  For flowers – you can pick those us.  Just send someone responsible who will check the flowers for you.  The florist will pack them to transport.  I had one quote me $200 for delivery (for less than what you have) or I could pick it up the day before. 

For the cake/cupcakes… if they’ll set them up, probably worth it.  I’m paying $65 for my baker to come just a few minutes down the road with the cake.  But then he’ll set it up, make sure everything is perfect, and put the flowers on it.  If something happens, he’ll go somewhere else and buy me a cake.  Most bakers I talked to warned against transporting your own cake above 2 layers (which doesn’t apply to you…).  I would totally go pick up my own, say, groom’s cheesecake that was just one box.  And I’m sure someone will be happy to help.  MrJ’s family is not terribly involved, but they’d love to be able to help.

Post # 41
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1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If you do end up asking someon to help you, remember that if anything is damaged during transport, your vendors are not responsible.

If your 150 (or however many) cupcakes spill out into the baker’s delivery van, however, they are responsible for rush ordering 150 fresh new cupcakes.

Just food for thought.

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