(Closed) Is it too much to ask for everyone to wear hats?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think it is cute, but I would have to buy a hat, and I wouldn’t be thrilled to have to buy something, in addition to a gift, for a wedding.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

people within the wedding I say its OK to ask them. But asking the guests is too much. People get their hair done and so forth.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

Generally I would say that it IS to much to ask for people to most likely purchase a hat specifically for your wedding. How many guests are you inviting? If it’s 40 guests and all of them are people your extremely close to then it might be more feasible but if you are inviting 150 people more then not 99% will need to purchase a hat to come and I don’t think that is a reasonable request.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@shelbyejkrug: I wouldn’t expect your guests to wear hats, but you could put something on the guest information card in the invite (or on the wedding website) saying something like “If you are willing, we’d love to see you all in your sunday finery, hats especially!”

Something that’s fun and plays with the theme of your wedding without insisting they wear them.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yes it is too much to ask everyone to wear a hat. Not everyone even likes hats or owns a dressy hat. Besides it would be kinda strange if every single person wore a hat

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

personally I wouldn’t like to (as a guest).  I never wear hats and don’t look good in them.  I’d feel uncomfortable.  as someone else said, you can gently suggest it but don’t get disappointed if you don’t have 100% participation.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

personally I wouldn’t like to (as a guest).  I never wear hats and don’t look good in them.  I’d feel uncomfortable.  as someone else said, you can gently suggest it but don’t get disappointed if you don’t have 100% participation.

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@shelbyejkrug: Another idea is to have hats available at the wedding for those who want to wear them.

Then you could say, “If you have a Sunday hat, please feel free to wear one! If you don’t have a Sunday hat and would like to wear one we will have them available for guests who wish to wear them.”

That way you aren’t asking anyone to buy a hat.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

draw inspiration from the british. they wear super fancy hats to weddings 🙂

Maybe say in your invites on an enclosure or on your website something along the lines of how you’re drawing inspiration from the British and guests are strongly encouraged to wear a hat if they so wish.

TOTALLY have a prize for best hat/most outrageous hat/prettiest hat/ugliest hat/etc.

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think you can specify dress code, e.g. black tie, semi formal etc. I don’t think it is reasonable to ask the women to wear hats.

Hats are worn so infrequently in today’s society, that you would be asking them to spend a significant amount of money on something they will never wear again.

I thought that only happened to bridesmaids.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee

I think it’s reasonable to request if you provide a bunch of quirky, fun thrift store hats for those who forgot. 

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