(Closed) Is it too much to ask for everyone to wear hats?

posted 10 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 17
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Buzzing bee

Alternatively, I think it’s fair to ask them, but don’t be surprised if some people don’t.

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I agree that maybe if you had them available, and it was a suggestion rather than an instruction it might be okay. But, I hate the way hats look on me and I would never wear one as a guest to a wedding. So, not everyone would participate but i don’t think its wrong to give them the option!

Post # 19
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Am I the only person who wishes she had an excuse to go buy such a hat and wear it with purpose? Though my taste would run more towards wide brimmed and floppy.

But I do agree with the others that it is too much to tell guests to wear them. I do think having them available is a great idea. I would also try to get word of mouth going that you’d love your guests to wear them if they choose. As long as it isn’t a demand, which I don’t think you’re saying.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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@shelbyejkrug: 

bottle of wine
gift certificate to spa (perhaps a manicure or a pedicure?)
Box of chocolates/cookies/A nice scarf (there’s tons on etsy), gloves, etc.
gift cards to restaurants (25$? 50$?)
Is there anything in your wedding that you’re using somewhere else that can be repeated?

etc.
Just think of what you like! Since 99% of the people wearing hats will be women, just think of what you’d want 🙂

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

So fun! I love the idea, and would totally buy a hat and play along! But yeah… how to word it…?

Fiance just decided- completely out of nowhere, that he must wear a fedora on our day. I was pondering hats for myself at a few antique stores this afternoon and they had some gorgeous ones for $15-$20.

Post # 25
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would *hate* if it i was “forced” to wear a hat… to anything.  I don’t like how I look in hats and hate even more what it does to my hair.  I imagine the women attending the wedding would spend some time doing their hair and not want any sort of hat head.  I think it’d be cute to just suggest it as a fun thing to guest for thsoe who want to, I’m sure a lot would love to have some fun with it also, but there will be a few that will enjoy the sight but thank the lord you didn’t make them do it too.

Post # 26
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Helper bee

I think that it would be fun to put something on your website (if you’re having one) or let it get around by word of mouth that you’d love to see guests in hats, if they want to wear them.  KatNYC2011’s way of putting it was great.

I like the idea of having some thrift store extras on hand, too, and of having prizes.  I’d go get a hat for your wedding if I were a guest!

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Since you love the idea of hats maybe borrow my hat idea…

We had a Sunday tea garden party for my sister’s shower and I wrote a quirky poem about everyone wearing hats to the party.  I turned out great!!  Everyone pulled out their big floppy sun hats and floral dresses.  I even wore one of my daughter’s really big tutus on my head because the tulle/netting was so stiff it looked like a really fancy hat on my head!  🙂

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I would think it was weird if I was a guest to be honest. I really really hate hats, and wouldn’t wear one no matter what!

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I went to a wedding last year that was a “hats” wedding. It was in a lovely old english country mansion.

On the invitation it simply said: Ladies, hats prefered.

As a guest, I was initally a bit surprised as I’ve never been to a wedding that specified any dress-code. But it was actually kinda fun. I wore a fascinator, as did quite a few of the younger guests, but there were also a lot of hats. It looked cool!

RainStorm. x

Post # 30
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Personally, I would be stoked to have and excuse to wear one of my hats.  You could say on the invite Hats Encouraged.

Post # 31
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I would love an excuse to wear a hat like

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@tksjewelry: said. Just something along the lines of “hats especially encouraged” “a good day to wear a hat” “hope to see you in all your millnery (not sure if that’s the right word) finery”.

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