Post # 32
If I was a guest I wouldn’t want to buy a hat and if the bride insisted that it was mandatory I would skip the wedding as well. I wouldn’t want to buy something like that because I would never wear it again. THat being said you know your guests best and if they would be ok with buying/wearing them.
Post # 33
People skip black tue weddings because they don’t want to rent a tux. I think many will skip a wedding if it requires hats. It’s ok to do it but just expect many people to RSVP no, and others to show up but not follow the hat thing.
Post # 34
- Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia
If you think it’s too much for the wedding, maybe do it for the shower? My girls have thrown me a high tea (it’s next weekend!) and the dress code was frocks and headwear on a Sunday afternoon. That might work for you too?
Post # 35
i would say that you’d be thrilled to see any guests sporting hats or fascinators, if they wanted to wear them – headwear encouraged!
Post # 36
Oh I would love that (obviously) and I think it would make for some awesome pictures. But I have to agree with the PPs getting the wording just right so people feel encouraged but not expected to wear them will be important.
Post # 37
I like this wording.
Also, OP, I’ve been to quite a few Kentucky Derby parties where everyone wears hats like the one you posted. It’s really fun, and there are prizes for the best hats. I don’t know if you want to do a derby theme, but that’s an option.
Post # 38
I personally wouldn’t wear a hat– After doing my hair (curls and whatnot) I wouldnt want to ruin it, nor buy a hat!
Post # 39
I think it would be best if you suggested wearing a hat in your invites instead of making it a “requirement”. I don’t see anything wrong with it if it’s worded as a suggestion only.
Post # 40
I’m with the other bee’s. I HATE hats so i’d never wear one especially a funky one, anywhere. hats are just not my thing. if i was required to wear one i’d skip the wedding.
Post # 41
I’m dealing with the same thing! I and most of my family wear hats A LOT but I know a lot people do not (and I don’t know why because they’re AWESOME!) haha I seriously will plan my outfits around my hats/facinators haha Anyway, FI’s family and most of our friends probably won’t (some of my sorority sisters prob will but the rest of his family and our friends won’t)… which is fine I suppose but I’m going to put something on our wedding website and let my family spread the request around by word of mouth. I really wanted to put it somewhere on the invitation but my mother told me that was tacky and I should find another way to do it. The vain side of me doesn’t want people to think I’m doing it because of the Royal Wedding, but those close to me know I wear hats all the time anyway and people will talk no matter what so I say go for it! Good luck to you! I hope your guests will wear them!
Post # 42
My daughter is getting married at a small mansion that is now a B&B. She wanted ladies to wear hats, if they liked so I have been looking for wording too. The best I can come up with on my own is: While certainly not required, the bride invites all ladies to join her in wearing a hat for the wedding.
Post # 43
I think it is a bit much. However, I don’t see any harm in letting your guests know “gently” that it would be awesome if they did wear hats or even facsinators. Maybe you could have bridemaids, close family members, etc. spread the word? I personally would be excited to go fancy hat shopping but that’s just me. I love hats and get lots of compliments when I wear them. I usually wear something I already own to a wedding but just add new accessories so going hat shopping wouldn’t be to much for me!