(Closed) Is it too much to ask my guests to wear either White/Ivory/cream or Beige?

posted 6 years ago in Beauty
Post # 62
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Helper bee

Yes, for me it would be too much to ask. I don’t wear nor own anything in your color scheme and wouldn’t be keen on spending money on top of travel fees just to be a prop for your wedding. However, I would probably just decline because I feel like I would stand out if I was one of the few people who didn’t want to be your dress-up prop doll. It would save me travel fees and costume fees, so there’s that for silver lining.

Post # 63
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would be annoyed. Unless you were a REALLY close friend (in which case I’d probably be in the bridal party!) it would probably push me over the edge of declining the invite, given the other inconveniences and expense I’d already be going to to get there.

Post # 65
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

As my only white outfit, I’d be more than happy to give my wedding dress a second wear…is that what you want?

Post # 66
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I can imagine that it would look nice in the phots but personally I think it is unfair to even suggest people wear a particular colour. Even if it’s only a ‘suggestion’ I’d probably be stressed that I’d be the only one in a different colour! And if I was I’d be so conscious especially in pics, that I’ll stand out like a sore thumb. Also my other half would wear a light shirt but he’d never wear light coloured trousers.

Post # 67
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@jdeleon14255:  i personally don’t think so! I think it’s cool 🙂 honestly a lot of weddings have a dress code. Think about ‘black tie’ weddings. This article states is beautifully: http://www.blacktieguide.com/Etiquette/Etiquette_BlackTie_Codes.htm

Obviously that’s for ‘black tie’, but I think the same applies. You’d want your guests to respect your vision… plus, it’s warm so light colors would keep them cool, eh? Hahaha well…. doesn’t do anything after the sun sets, but shhh.

 

Post # 68
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@jdeleon14255:  I know the bees are saying this is a big no-no and usually I would agree, but in reality I did this too… I would say it depends on how many guests you have. We only had 4 guests, and no bridal/grooms party so it made sense to ask them to wear something particular. We went with white dresses for the girls and light grey pants with white button up for the guys. Our small number of guests seemed to enjoy knowing what to wear and they had asked us for ideas numerous times before we landed on the white idea. One gal in particular didn’t feel comfortable wearing white, but I told her I could careless and think she would look great- She felt better after I personally told her it wasn’t a biggie, and she looked fabulous!

Here’s a pic of our people in white/grey:

Post # 69
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

 Go ahead and ask them but please keep in mind that people are not props.

Post # 70
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I think it should be okay, they would probably go out anyways and shop for an outfit. Itll be fun for everyone! 

Post # 72
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My first reaction is … It’s a wedding not a white party. I would say it depends on your guests but it adds pressure and expectation to wear something thy may not own or like to wear. 

Post # 73
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You can ask what you want, but there might be some resistance. I’m looking at that first inspiration photo and I see all those men in white pants. How many men own white pants? I don’t think either my husband or teenage son own a pair of light coloured pants, let alone white pants. And I’d struggle to find something white enough myself.

Post # 74
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

A lot of people don’t feel those colors are flattering to their body types. I think the last thing you would want is for your guests to feel unattractive. 

Post # 75
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@jdeleon14255:  Make the theme “White Party” and everyone will be on board! That’s so fun and creative – wish I could be there to see it play out!

Post # 76
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I didn’t read all the responses, but as long as you phrased it like, “If you have white/cream/beige, we’d love it if you could wear those colors. Please don’t go to any extra expense or buy anything you wouldn’t have otherwise purchased, though.” I wouldn’t be offended, and I’d be totally willing to do it.

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