(Closed) Is it too much to ask my guests to wear either White/Ivory/cream or Beige?

posted 6 years ago in Beauty
Post # 107
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Wannabee

I believe it’s different from the “all-white” party mentioned above because in the case of an all-white party the guests are implicitly agreeing to be props, as it were. That’s fine, because the color choice is the raison d’etre of the party.

A wedding, however, is about more than “guests as actors in a play.”

Post # 108
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Sephiroth:  The only thing I could think of reading this post was “woooosahhh”

Post # 109
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@jdeleon14255:  as a poster who didn’t call you a name and tried to offer constructive advice and solutions, your recent post is pretty rude. If you think some bees responded more negatively than you deserve, it’s better to call them out directly or at least acknowledge that some of us gave opinions trying to be helpful and let you know how guests may react. asking for opinions then saying if your guests don’t like it then they just shouldn’t come doesn’t come off well. 

Post # 113
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Sugar Beekeeper

@jdeleon14255:  You lose the right to have it be about only your vision the moment you invite guests. At that point, you are not only a bride, but you are a host, with the  responsibilities that come with that role.

It is obvious from the results of this thread that a good number of people will see a request like this in a negative way.  That begs the question, why wouldn’t you care?  A vision should never come at the expense of others.  That is just  wrong.

On another note,  the appropriate clothing for a formal event is formalwear, just as the appropriate clothing for a barbecue is casual.  A “black tie” invitation simply makes note of the formality of the occasion and it is up to the guest to have the common sense to dress themselves accordingly.  There is no type of  affair where  men and women typically dress in all white, ivory, cream or  beige semi formalwear. 

Post # 114
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

My only problem with it is that most people probably don’t have anything wedding appropriate in those colors because you wouldn’t typically wear them to a wedding. Personally I wouldn’t feel comfortable asking my guests to wear something they would have to go and purchase especially for the occasion – but I get what you mean, those pics look lovely!

Post # 115
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Blushing bee

“I have clothes that are appropriately dressy 90% of the time.  If your occasion (wedding or otherwise) is one where the vision of the event is so specific that I don’t currently own desired attire, then I’m probably happier staying home and saving my time, effort and money for occasions where I’m appreciated for me rather than my wardrobe”


I so agree with this.  I would hate to have to spend money to get there and then be simply props to an occasion.  If you feel that strongly about it why don’t you suggest that in lieu of a gift, they spend the money on an “appropriate” outfit so they don’t mar your happiness with a red dress.

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