Post # 1
My boyfriend and I aren’t engaged yet but we’ve been dating for 5 years and are planning to get engaged sometime this summer. Is it “acceptable” to message photographers, venues, djs, etc that I’m interested in now before we even get officially engaged and talk about pricing etc? I really love having things planned out in advance and having only a year to plan a wedding while graduating college and working is making me so anxious! Thoughts please!
Post # 2
I highly suggest waiting. I’m a planner too, so I understand, but stop to enjoy the excitement and anticipation leading up to your engagement! I’m wedding planning right now, and it’s stressful! It will take away from the magic of your engagement if you jump right in.
Post # 3
It definitely doesn’t hurt to get prices and pick out the things you like. I think spacing it out makes it a lot more enjoyable because you’re not on such a time crunch. I wouldn’t commit to anything (hiring people for instance) until after the engagement, but my Fiance and I had already chosen where we would like to get married before getting engaged and stuff like that.
Post # 4
I would just wait. If you want longer to plan the wedding then just have a longer engagement.
Post # 5
patricenicole27 : I wouldnt put the horse before the carriage. Get engaged first THEN start planning your wedding.
Meanwhile set up a secret Pinterest wedding board and PIN PIN PIN!! 😂 It really helps when you are itching to start panning but you are not planning yet.. you can pin ideas, venues, hairstyles, decor, dresses, flowers, vows, whatever. It helps get it out of your system without getting ahead of yourself.
Post # 6
My venue was booked before being officially engaged. I knew the engagement was coming 100%, and we already had a date picked out, we were worried about the venue booking up though. In your case if it’s just prices I would say wait. They’ll all be pressuring you to book now, so I’d suggest waiting and enjoying this time.
Post # 7
Um, I would wait. A lot of companies adjust pricing on an annual basis and taking 2 years, basically, to plan a wedding seems like an exceptionally long time.
But this is coming from a person who planned her wedding in 4 months, with a child and working a demanding/stressful job.
Post # 8
Have you two talked about your dream wedding? If not, I’d hold off: if you do the legwork and planning now, it’ll be much harder for your boyfriend to have input in the planning—it would be like he was intruding in your planning process, instead of you two doing it as a team.
Post # 9
Wait. There is no reason to book now. A year is plenty of time to plan a wedding.
Post # 10
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
I don’t see any harm in looking around. More scouting than planning. It will help to give you an idea of what is available in the area you’re looking in, what the general cost might be, and what things you do or don’t like or want in your wedding. I certainly wouldn’t get attached to any particular idea or location, though. Agree with PP to start pinning ideas as you come across them.
Post # 11
Honestly I was in the same shoes, together 5 years, sure deal. I started looking around at venues and vendors to get an idea of where and what I’d like and how our budget would work out and what to expect. In my opinion making a Pinterest board is not the same at all, until you start planning and researching what things cost in your area you don’t really have an understanding of what is achievable in your price goal. Depending on your area and budget you may realize quickly you have to adjust your expections. It’s easy to have pretty pictures in your mind but once you start crunching numbers and seeing how things add up it may be a different story. Some places may not list prices online though and I found many would not even give an estimate unless I gave an exact date because they change their rates so much based on seasonal demand. I think it’s a smart deal. In my case I’m lucky. We got engaged and planned on a 1.5 year engagement because we wanted a summer wedding and this year was too soon. But then due to family situation and a great opportunity at our dream venue we are getting married this July! Planning a wedding in 5 months would be a nightmare if I was starting from scratch but since I’d already done a lot of scoping out for who would be in our price range and what I wanted I was able to all the big stuff nailed down almost immediately.
Post # 12
patricenicole27 : there is no harm in checking out the prices if u think u will be short of time later; however, I agree with bridetobe2018 : That it will take away the feeling of excitement and magic not only from the anticipation of being proposed but also from the feeling of being happy/excited when u are engaged.
Post # 13
Because I was on a tight budget and my FH and I knew we wanted a short engagement so I started asking a few months before getting engaged.
I bought my dress before I was engaged and had things planned out enough that I booked everything a few days after being engaged. (were having a 4 month engagement so maybe a bit of a special circumstance)
Post # 14
It honestly depends on you.
Personally I would wait. There is nothing glamorus about planning a wedding. It’s SUPER stressful.
Post # 15
I’d say yes, its definitely too soon- even if you’re just looking for prices- you’re a long way out still. Without a date, you can’t book a vendor, so there is no point in potentially getting attached to or excited about one now. Plus, prices can change. Wait till you have a date and then see what vendors are available. In the meantime, make a pintrest board and fill it with all the fun wedding things that you love!