Post # 1
I’m going dress shopping on Friday and I have four dresses in mind that I know I at least want to try on, however I’m afraid I’ll get there and see so many dresses that I’ll become over-whelmed lol 🙁
So my question is, for those of you whom have purchased your dress for weddings past and future, would you say it is true that when you have found the right dress you will just know?
This is how I feel and what my mom keeps telling me.
Post # 2
It was for me. I went shopping with my girlfriends, and found a dress that was lovely- and thought it was the one. I went back the following week to buy it and asked the saleswoman I was working with if I could just try on some others because I wasn’t sure. The second dress I tried (totally not a style I thought I wanted) made me feel amazing. I literally didn’t want to take it off. And that ended up being the dress I bought. So, I’d say yes- when you know, you know!
Post # 3
To be honest it wasn’t really like that for me. I ended up with a stunningly beautiful dress well within my budget. But I don’t think there is “one perfect dress” out there for each bride. I’m sure there are many many others I would have been equally happy in. It comes to a point where you just need to pull the trigger and stop looking.
Post # 4
For me I like to sleep on a decision first. I went with my Maid/Matron of Honor to look, told a budget but did not want to know prices. Left with three favorites, came back a few weeks later and ended up with the one I was least sure of. When i put it on again i did know. It was/is perfect for my style and pur beach ceremony. It was also very inexpensive (on sale for 350) my moh and future mother in law helped me buy it anyway and I’m super happy with my choice
Post # 5
It wasn’t really like that for me, but I’m not really an overly emotional person I guess lol.
Post # 6
It wasn’t like that for me at all. I went dress shopping twice and both times found many dresses that I really liked and couldn’t make up my mind. I’m kind of indecisive in general so I knew I would have a hard time choosing. I just purchased my dress last month online and really I just made a choice and quickly purchased so that I didn’t have time to change my mind lol.
Post # 7
This wasn’t my experience. I narrowed my options down to two dresses that I loved and then I just picked one. The other one was just as lovely, but no regrets.
Post # 8
Totally true. While this moment and how it plats out is different for everyone, it is most certainly true!
I am normalyl a crier. I cry in movies, get emotional all the time. So I expected to cry and get super emotional when I found my dress. However, when I finally, that didn’t happen at all! In fact, I didn’t cry in a single dress I tried!
My “This is the dress” moment, happened when I went to a salon all by myself, just for the sake of trying some more dresses on. I already had a dress I thought was the one I wanted, but my mom encouraged me to keep looking. I am so glad she did because I put the dress on, looked at myself in the mirror and the entire world went still. It was like time had stopped. The noise in my head ceased and when I looked at my face, I had a huge grin on. It was such a crazy moment, I had never experienced anything like it. I knew in my heart it was my dress.
Now I dream about it all the time and genuinely havr to stop myself from going back to the salon to put it on again before it arrives this spring!
You may or may not cry, you may or may not freak out, but you will know! Good luck shopping Bee!
Post # 9
Thanks all! I see that there are a lot of mixed responses……..Sometimes I can be rather indecisive and at other times I can make a decision rather quickly so I guess I will just have to wait and see how this turns out. Hopefully I can decide fairly easily since I don’t have much time. My Maid/Matron of Honor will be with me to help as well. I guess the main thing I’m concerned about is that alot of wedding dresses tend to look alike to me for some reason with very minor differences and I know for a fact I want to be different, but we’ll see!
Post # 10
MsJ2018 : yup. And it wasn’t at ALL what I went in thinking I wanted. I had been drooling over a dress for like a year and when I finally tried it on it was so uncomfortable and I hated it. Keep in mind that you can also tweak a dress! I was between two gowns and one was significantly more comfortable than the other but gosh darnnit I loved the satin buttons and the belt on the other one. So we added satin buttons and the same belt to the other dress. That first was gorgeous but I couldn’t dance in it – and I didn’t hire a 9 piece brass band for my wedding to not be able to bust a move!
Post # 11
I was also super concerned about being overwhelmed, and to be honest, I was a little bit. The first thing I did was go to a David’s bridal and just try on a bunch of dresses to find the shape I wanted. I will say that the shape I really liked surprised me. I thought for sure I’d do an A-line chiffon skirt and I really liked the fit and flare!
When I went to a more upscale salon, I tried on over 30 dresses. I found a couple that were okay, but none that I loved. I really didn’t think I’d have “that moment” where I *just knew*. I’m not an overly emotional person, I’m very analyticly minded and I thought I would just find a nice dress that looked good on me and that would be it! By the time we had crossed 25 dresses, I was literally in the dressing room just pulling them up and saying no if they didn’t work, showing them if they were okay. As she was pulling my dress up I thought for sure that I would hate it. It was the exact opposite of what I wanted. But she pulled it on, I looked in the mirror and the first thought that popped in my head was “this is the dress I’m getting married in”. Now with my indecisive, overly analytic mind, I couldn’t pull the trigger that day.
I went to another salon, because I really didn’t try on what I originally thought I wanted. A very plain, satin gown. So I tried on a few of those, and then tried on “my dress” again (the salon I went to had the same one that I fell in love with, but in a different color, which I loved even more!) and completely forgot about every dress I had just put on. Finally after a few rounds of that I put my dress on one more time and walked out, and my mom said “That is just your dress. Stop fighting it” and I did! I just didn’t want to take it off! And when it came in I felt the exact same way! I just wanted to walk around in it all the time!!
You may have the feeling or you may not. The key is just not to get overwhelmed. And when you find one, just stop looking!
Post # 12
Dresses are like men. There will be a handful of dresses that standout from the the rest and could be the dress and it’s mostly a matter of timing and cost as to which you pick. Sometimes this is a hard decision when your budget and timeline (aka personality and interests) are broad enough.
That said… some people are lucky and happen across a dress that is exceptionally great for them where it is a super easy decision. Or they have such a narrow budget or style or timeline that there is only one real option.
All will be just as married in the end, and in a dress that looks lovely and fits them well.
(I just knew when I found my dress for my first wedding. Still to this day I think it was divine providence that allowed me to find it and never before or after have I seen a dress that looks similar. This time around, I don’t expect the same feeling… I expect to find a dress I like that looks great on me and to call it a day. The feeling is nice and reassuring but at the end… it’s just clothing that you’ll wear for less than a day. )
Post # 13
gunnabamissus : Thanks hun! I really like your answer, not because you told me what I wanted to hear (because I didn’t know what I would be told by you all on here) but because your answer had alot of emotion and reasoning. I assume that I will cry also because I’ve never imagined myself in a wedding gown (this will be my first time trying some on), but I don’t know for sure that I will, we will see! I had a dream awhile back that I went dress shopping and when I walked in I became speechless and couldn’t even talk, only cry without even having tried on a single dress yet. Regardless of how it turns out I know it will be an experience to remember.
Thank again, well wishes to you.
Post # 14
LilliV : lol!! I hope you were able to get your groove on in the end girl! Congrats to you!
Post # 15
Sunshine024 : I LOVE the points you raised and I will surely keep them in mind since we seem to think alike ( I could see me doing the things you did)! Good luck to you bee!