Post # 1
We’re not planning to have formal reception for the wedding, just dinner at a nice restaurant. It’s just going to be our closest friends & family, so I really want to serve something nice and upscale. I was thinking something like filet mignon and lobster tails, which is quite pricey. It’s going to be a plated dinner, not buffet style, and the guests will probably have the option of choosing something else like chicken if they don’t want steak & lobster.
So my question is, a few of our guests have kids and I was wondering if it would be unfair not to give the kids the choice of ordering the expensive steak & lobster? The kids are 9, 12, 16 & 17. Two of the younger kids are boys and can eat a lot. I’m sure they would appreciate such a nice meal, but it seems like a lot of money to spend on youngsters.
Is it totally rude and offensive to the parents not to give their kids a choice? Is it something I should tell the parents about in advance? Not sure how I would even go about it…
Post # 3
I would offer a kids menu item for the 9 and 12 year old but with the knowledge that they can order steak if they want.
For the 16 and 17 year old – they should get the adult menu. At 16 I definitely appreciated a good steak!
Post # 4
My caterer told us that alternative menu items/ children’s meals would be available for guests ages 12 and younger. I think that for the two younger kids you could do whatever, possibly a less expensive steak. I would ask their parents to see if they even like steak. I think it would be a shame for really amazing food to go to waste. The older kids are probably at the age where they would eat the same food as the adults.
Post # 5
I think all those ages are a little old for kid’s meals. I would give them the same options as an adult. Speaking for myself, I ate the same food adults ate, (and loved lobster and fine foods), at those ages.
Post # 6
I agree with Meowkers. I was the same way.
Post # 7
I think 16 & 17 can get the adult’s meal. 12 is a maybe, depending on if that kid is a big eater or not. The 9 year old could definitely get the kids meal I think!
Post # 8
I would offer kids menus to those kids 16 and under. The 9yro and the 12yro would get a kids menu in my opinion.
Post # 9
We’re sort of in the same boat… There are several children coming to our wedding reception (ranging from 16 years old to less than a year old). Here’s what I’m doing… Although our guests have the choice of a beef, chicken or fish plated dinner, we are also offering a chicken finger and french fries meal for the little ones. The children who are coming are all nieces or nephews so I felt comfortable enough to call the parents and explain that although the response card has the specific beef, chicken and fish dinners listed in detail for them to choose from, a special “kids meal” has been ordered for their children. I let all the kids 10 years old and older decide if they wanted the kids meal or if they prefered one of the beef/chicken/fish options instead. I assumed the kids under 10 would prefer the kids meal… but hit a road bump when my fiance’s 7 year old niece politely requested steak instead of chicken fingers (I guess she doesn’t eat chicken). I was taken aback by the request – the thought of spending so much money on a kid that may or may not even eat the dinner made me a little uneasy at first… but decided to give her whatever she wanted. Since you only have 4 kids attending and two of them (the 16 & 17 year old) are more like adults than children (and you said the younger two would actually eat the meal), I would just offer them all the same meal as everyone else.
Post # 10
Thanks for all the responses! I think I will include a kids meal option on the menu but I will let them decide for themselves what they want. You guys were a big help thanks again!
Post # 11
@LisaC: That’s what we’re doing. On the response card for wee ones, the Child option is there if they want it. Otherwise, they can choose what they want.