(Closed) Is it unfair of me to reserve LO a spot at two daycares?

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper

@MARIE901:  I think that’s the point of the deposit (meaning, they get some compensation if you do back out).  I wouldn’t wait until the last minute, but if you are holding out to see if your first choice is available, why not release #3 and keep #2?

Maybe I’m missing something, but why would one of them fall through?

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

If finding daycare is that much of a hassle that you have to put your name on two seperate waiting lists and visit three centers then I don’t think they’re going to have problems filling the spot if you back out. 

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think it isn’t fair to the other parents, let alone the daycares.

Where I live, finding daycare options is very competitive and difficult – not enough spots for the # of people who need them. If you were to do that here, and other parents found out about it, you’d find yourself in an awfully sticky social situation. But, the deposits are much, much more – to discourage people from doing what you are doing – so I am going to assume it isn’t as big of a deal where you live?

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper

@Sugaree:  i concur with this and i think i would do the same thing in your situation OP.  

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@Sugaree:  This.  If you are okay with paying the deposits and then losing one later on then do it.  Something may happen with one.  I review daycare licenses and shut down daycares and good daycares get shut down often so it’s not out of the realm of possibility.  If not, some lucky parent will get rewarded for their procrastination in finding a daycare.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@MARIE901:  We put a $250 deposit down on a daycare here, and are still looking so I don’t see a problem with this either, especially if you will decide a little later and give them notice. I think it is good to have a back up plan.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

@MARIE901:  I don’t think that’s unfair AT ALL. Think of how exstatic a mother will be if you back out and she gets to swoop in and take your spot earlier than she expected? 

You are not causing harm to the daycare because you paid your deposit and let’s be realistic: they will ALWAYS be able to fill their spots. Daycares will never be empty just because you take your kid out last minute.

I think this is a great plan and it’ll give you and Darling Husband time to choose the best possible place to leave your baby:)

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

As a daycare owner, I have to say that this is absolutely unfair.  A large center type place might not care as much, but for me personally this would completely ruin me financially.  If you gave me a deposit and took the only spot we had open, I would sacrifice and turn people away that called for care.  This means that the income I usually have from that spot wouldn’t be coming into my home, and I would be scraping by to pay for groceries, misc household bills, etc.  Basically, you’re taking money out of their pocket from now until February, and that isn’t fair to them if you then tell them ‘Oh, we’re not coming’.  That deposit only secures your spot, but doesn’t do anything for them.  You should make a decision quickly, so that the one you don’t choose can find someone to fill that spot.  Even if they are a larger center, they still have bills and employees to pay.  

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@MerryWidow:  How is that taking money from them between now and Feburary if they don’t even HAVE a spot until Feb? The OP is looking into centers and one kid not coming isn’t going to make or break anything. Frankly pinning your financial future on one kid coming or not coming- center or in home- is extremely scary and unstable and really none of the OPs concern. She is paying to hold a spot, not signing a contract. 

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@mixtapehearts:  It can take months to fill a spot, so most places will try to fill the spots as early as possible to ensure there isn’t a huge amount of time in between.  So, while it isn’t taking money out of our pocket today, it could take money out of our pocket for several months, I misworded that.  OP asked a question, I don’t think it’s unfair of me to answer it from the other side of things.  

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